How will I get out of this relationship?? I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and we've split up for a dozen of times now (technically he is the one who's initiating the break-up). We always fight, arguing with stuffs like what I wear (he doesn't want me to wear shorts and sleeveless) , who am I talking with and how am I talking to them ( he usually say that I'm more happy with them than him and if I talk to boy he says I'm flirting with them in which they are my friend and he knows them too). He's always mad and blaming all the mistakes in me, ending up me saying sorry just to stop the fight. He always argues who is right or wrong, even though at times that I get hurt with what he does but justifying that I shouldn't be since he did nothing wrong and ending up him getting mad.

We broke up last October 2011, he broke up with me because said he's not happy any more... Before that, he usually go out with his dance group and I got hurt because he's not that open to me anymore with his activities like he use to and as if he's hiding something, then he just didn't show or call me for 2 days (we see each other every day). I confronted him and he said that he's flirting with someone with his group and they kissed (it hurts a lot thinking that we're still together, but the girl didn't want to have a relationship with him so he stopped. I begged him to stay but he said he needs time and space for him that if I'm lucky that he will not find someone else then we could be together again.

We haven't seen each other for 3 months that time, honestly I was very happy, I feel stress free, I'm not worrying that someone will get mad at me with everything, but I saw him last January 2012. He said he's sorry and regret it, so I gave him a chance thinking it will be different this time, but now? Checking how we are now, I don't like it , I'm not happy , he's doing it again and worst case is we physically fight , but I don't know how to get out and why can't I?

What on earth are you doing with him again. Did you not learn from your mistakes the first time. You keep sticking your hand in the hot frying pan, hoping not to get burned again. It's easy to get out, LEAVE walk away, run away, skip away, do whatever you have to, call a friend, a family member, ask for help. If he's physically abusive, call the police. You need to open your eyes sweetheart and run, in any direction it doesn't matter. Just run.

This is a form of abuse, and you are stuck in a cyle of it. The way out, is to get someone to help you who knows what you are up against, and a slave to.

Find the Abuse Hotline in your state or county, or country.

This guy sounds like he is controlling your life. You can't let him tell you what to do or what to wear or who to talk to. Tell this guy off. You gave him a second chance and he blew it. Leave him get away whatever you have to do. This guy is running your life and it is a form of abuse. If is easy to get out. Just tell him what he is doing wrong. Have you told anyone else what is going on?

Once can be a mistake and a lot of time apart can make someone really regret there decisions and actually change but you gave him a second chance and its just reacuring again its time too wake and smell the roses this guy is not worth your time. You can't leave him because deep down you still love him but you have too man up and leave him push your feelings a side for a minute and realise what's best for you in the time to come and its not him. Then the healing process will come and it takes time but cut all ties with him. Just remember there's millions of guys out there. It's a weird world all the nice guys find the bad girls and all the bad guys find the nice girls.

My suggestion is to LEAVE, LEAVE, AND LEAVE!

He is abusive and you do not deserve it.

I guess that if he is the one who's initiating the break-up, so just do it because he is really controlling your life.this guy don't deserve you.