My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I took her virginity and she hasn't been with anyone else, (as far as I know). The problem is that I can't get her to orgasm. She has had clittoral orgasms but never the BIG-O that I've heard so much about, (and I'm not talking about oprah. I know that there's two types clittoral and g-spot, but I've never achieved it with my girl and I actually don't know if I've every gotten any girl there. I know every girl is different and it depends on what works for her but since she was a virgin when we met she's never been with anyone else so she doesn't know what would really work for her or how to tell me what to do. I'd like to get her there and would be open to any suggestions you may have. Also if anyone knows whether the big-O and female ejaculation are the same thing that would help too because I don't think I've ever achieved either.
Franko

There is a lot published on the internet about these topics -- in some ways its like a great sex ed class here! I would certainly avail yourself of that.

From my own reading, I may be able to add two things. There may be many kinds of orgasms, not just two and one is not necessarily better than the others? On some level, they are all good! Also human bodies differ structurally a lot - and very much so when it comes to the female pelvic region. Because of structural differences, some women can orgasm with intercourse easily, many can't, some can achieve it with this sort of stimulation but not that. Its really so very individualized of an arrangement that I would be a little careful about placing too much importance on comparisons.

The only suggestion I would offer is to encourage you both to get to know her body through exploration. I would encourage the use of sexual aids to whatever level she is comfortable with since they can provide very different kinds of stimulation too. The more exploration there is, the better one can express themselves sexually and besides, its fun!

You could try looking at this site:- BBC - Relationships - Sex and sexual health - The G-spot (http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/enjsex_gspot.shtml)
It gives a good description of the G Spot and how to stimulate it. Also look at;-
G-spot - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot) For a very good diagram.
I would say that if she is achieving clitoral orgasm, she has nothing to worry about. I have experienced both types and would say although the G Spot orgasm seems more intense, the clitoral orgasm is just as good. Female ejaculation is related to stimulation of the G Spot, see Female ejaculation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation)
You can also try THE BIG O : Orgasms (http://www.enotalone.com/article/4326.html) which has lots of information on the big O. Hope all that helps.

Don't feel bad -- I am female 33 years old and love all kinds of sex, and I just recently got the Big O on the G-spot. I was the same way -- sex was great, but clitoral stimulation was the only orgasm.

I found that I can only get it while I'm on top. My husband so lucky!

The best part is that the only way you will find it is to keep trying. Good luck.

Avoid looking for problems where there aren't any. Is your girlfriend happy with what you both do and accomplish? Are you? If so, relax and enjoy.