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frotondi86
May 27, 2012, 08:36 PM
I have a huge crush on my neighbor, we were getting so close, I lied to him about having my first kiss with some guy, then it became a bigger lie, I told him that I did more, just to impress him. I felt ashamed about being prude, I'm 15 by the way a sophomore, he's a senior 17. I've known him since I was 4. I feel terrible, I don't knoe what to do, I've lied to him in the past, and when he gets mad, he ignores me for a few months! It kills me, I honestly would do anything for him. I just don't want him to feel like he can't trust me if anything happens in the future. He's currently dating a freshman, he basically chose her over me. But I still want him to be my first kiss and anything else. I've never felt this way before. I just don't know how to tell him that I lied. I love him. I can't function correctly if he doesn't talk to me. Please help!! I feel terrible!!

dericdomino
May 27, 2012, 11:00 PM
Be honest with him. Tell him you were only trying to impress him. He may get upset for a while but sooner or later he will understand. If he cares at all about you then he will come to his senses and be yours. If not - then it was never meant to be.

Homegirl 50
May 27, 2012, 11:18 PM
Tell him the truth and hope he gets over it. In the meantime he has a girlfriend so you need to focus elsewhere.

frotondi86
May 28, 2012, 09:28 PM
If we do get closer again and he breaks up with his girlfriend, and if I have a chance to kiss him do I tell him I lied before ot after the kiss?

ceebeeluckee
May 28, 2012, 09:38 PM
I'd tell him right away... It'll probably be embarrassing, but you'll get kudos for your honesty...

Ruby100
May 29, 2012, 12:39 PM
Does he show any interest in you and do you feel like he really likes you if there is a connection just be the one to take the first step tell him how you feel and tell him that it was just so that you could impress him if he might be pissed off but believe me if he really likes you he will come around and try not to add any more lies to the one you've already told him and in future try not to lie to impress any one

soccerlover9121
May 29, 2012, 01:03 PM
Tell him as soon as possible! If he realizes that you did lie from someone else and you didn't tell him, he'll be even more mad at you. Even though he might be mad when you tell him the truth, it's much better coming from you than from someone else.

frotondi86
May 29, 2012, 04:31 PM
Does he show any interest in you and do you feel like he really likes you if there is a connection just be the one to take the first step tell him how you feel and tell him that it was just so that you could impress him if he might be pissed off but believe me if he really likes you he will come around and try not to add any more lies to the one you've already told him and in future try not to lie to impress any one

I don't know, I thought he felt the same way I did. But he always proves me wrong, he flirts with me then goes out with some other girl. I don't know my friends and family are saying he probably is scared of hurting me, if he ever wants to break up or something, other people are saying he's waiting on me... idk what to do

Tassy1998
May 30, 2012, 12:21 AM
He probably thinks of you like a sister or a friend, turns out my neighbor liked me since we were 10, I'm 15 and he's 16 now and the whole time I looked to him as just a really good friend don't get me wrong he's attractive just not to me I love him too much like a friend and when he told me it just confused me and made things awkward

C0bra_M3nace
May 30, 2012, 08:18 AM
I don't know, I thought he felt the same way I did. But he always proves me wrong, he flirts with me then goes out with some other girl. I don't know my friends and family r saying he probably is scared of hurting me, if he ever wants to break up or something, other ppl r saying he's waiting on me...idk what to do

Communication is key, the only way to find out is to talk to him.

Homegirl 50
May 30, 2012, 10:14 AM
I would venture to say that what you told him went in one ear and out the other.
Unless he is as pure as snow himself, what you do or say you did with your life is none of his business as you two are not even dating.
It could be that he is not into you as you are with him.
Don't sit around worrying about him. If he wanted to be with you, he would be.

frotondi86
May 30, 2012, 12:30 PM
Communication is key, the only way to find out is to talk to him.

I cant, I already told him a fee months ago, he gets really cocky and always rubs it in my face. I don't know he's worth the wait anymore I've liked him since I was 12

Homegirl 50
May 30, 2012, 12:40 PM
Then forget him and move on.

frotondi86
May 30, 2012, 01:59 PM
Communication is key, the only way to find out is to talk to him.

I can't, I've done it like 5 months ago, it was a big mistake because he rubbed it in my face and became cocky. So thts not an option rite now, I just need to tell him after he breaks up with his girlfriend and if I see signs that he likes me. I just don't knoe what to say exactly. Can someone actually write up what I should say because I don't know where to start.

Homegirl 50
May 30, 2012, 03:48 PM
You are worrying over something that may not even happen. Instead of worrying about what you can say to him when... why don't you put that energy into moving on. He obviously does not have those feelings for you.
Besides that you say he's cocky and throws things back in your face. Who needs that?

frotondi86
Jun 2, 2012, 05:33 PM
You know what he's not worth it, he's an .