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araram
May 24, 2012, 09:57 PM
So I have been dating this guy for two years. Our relationship is getting more serious. He is a father of two kids, very young. Aside from the fact that he is a dad, and that takes time away from us, lately I have been feeling exhausted. We seem to argue a lot lately. I have trust issues because of previous relationships I have been in. About a year ago, I caught him e mailing escorts. I confronted him and he explained his reasoning. I believed him because I love him and we all make mistakes. So I decided to give him another chance. The other day I asked him for his phone because mine died and the moment I went to open a new window the history pulled up and there it was... The escort web site. I told him that it was wrong that I felt disrespected, he said he was sorry and he won't do it again.

Anyhow, I know he still does it. Our sex life is Okay... I mean, there's room for improvement. Lately, he is always tired. He isn't very receptive I feel. I don't know what to do. I feel like he doesn't pay attention to me, he is concerned about his life with his kids and enjoys the fact I'm around because I feel like it is convenient for him.

Lately I've been thinking of leaving him. I am still young, I feel there's a lot still to live and experience and being in this relationship limits my life. The fact that I am always thinking he's looking for escorts really makes me sad... I Mean porn is one thing, but escorts! Idk. I feel that I don't trust him as much and then I think of the kids and how I have to sacrifice a lot of things I want because he has other priorities in his life. I don't know. I need help! How do I handle this situation... Is it me? Why do I feel this way?

C0bra_M3nace
May 25, 2012, 04:43 AM
Get rid of him, you deserve much better from the sounds of it. It will be tough, but you'll eventually move on and fell much better, maybe even find the right guy. You're still young like you said, move on do other things, you've got a lifetime ahead of you.

talaniman
May 26, 2012, 02:54 PM
Maybe a fresh start is what you need, and a guy without the baggage and flaws. I have no doubt you could do better without him. I mean single life ain't bad and with the right attitude, downright fun.