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Girlie847
May 22, 2012, 06:33 AM
So I've been dating my boyfriend for almost six months and we have not had sex yet. I've given him oral sex a few times, he's not given me oral sex but has fingered me to orgasm. He tells me he loves me and when I ask why he won't har sex with me he tells me he wants the first time together to be special. Here's the frustration part for me: I am 30, he's 29. We've both had several sex partners in the past and I just can't understand why he will not have sex with me! We stay together every weekend, he cops a feel here and there but when we get to getting clothes off he either wants me to jack him off it he does it himself and then goes to sleep. I quit giving him oral sex because I'm not feeling like he appreciates me-and I like to do it! I do love him... we're going away next month and he keeps telling me he has a surprise for me but who knows what it is.. I've tried lingerie (lots of different kinds) and I have begun to "joke" that I must need to get a flannel nightgown that buttons all the way up my neck and goes down to the floor-or footie pajamas. I've told him it makes me feel unattractive to him because he won't have sex with me... I've tried asking him why but then it looks like sex is the only thing I think about-but after all this waiting it's become an issue for me-what's his deal?

Fr_Chuck
May 22, 2012, 06:48 AM
Changed religious or moral values wanting to wait.

Fear of you becoming pregnant

He has had sexual issues with a partner in the past

He is really gay and is in the closet

He does not believe sex is that important in a relationship