My father was very abusive to me, my mother, and my brother. He caused us a lot of stress and grief, and harassed us when ever he could.

Even though my father was a lingering part of our lives, he only stayed around to use me and my brother as ammunition to get back at my mother for leaving him.

My mother has taken my father back to court when we were 8 and 10 for lack of child support, and lack of paying bills. Yet she gave up shortly after becausse he still did not want to pay.

My single mother went to school and got her self a degree in nursing. Yet through those years my father still harassed her, and caused her much stress and grief. The only reason why she ever contacted him, is becauSe she wanted me and my brother to know how it felt like to have a father in our lives, which he wasn’t.

Me and my brother are around 21- and 23 college students. He still hasn’t paid a cent of his court ordered child support to this day. He was also required to pay a little longer since we’ve both been college students since the age of 17 and 18. He hasn’t paid insurance as agreed in court, or anything else.


What I’m asking is should we file a lawsuit of backed up child suppport?

We lived in New York when this happened?

The last three or four we moved to Georgia, he still lives in New York, will that be a problem?

As long as there is a stanfing order of child support your mother (not you) can pursue it. Jurisdiction will be where the mother is a resident unless he is still in NY.

I don't get "he still did not want to pay". If he had a job his salary should have been garnished. Of course he could have avoided this by being indigent. But that should be a level of revenge for you.

And of course if he did not pay then, why do you think he will now ?

Next you don't file a law suit, You as the child has no standing in collection.

Your mom need to take him back to court to pay back support and any current due. She has to stop giving up and keep fighting more.

I thank everyone for their help.


I still have some questions.

For awhile my mom did not even consider it, she felt my father was dangerous to come after her, and us. (I don't know the full story)This was based on a friend of my father shooting his ex-wife over child support.

Though I'm not sure if my mom still feels something similar to this will happen, she didn't want to take the chance while me and my brother were to young to do much.

Now that me and my brother are grown, and in a different state then him. Is there any thing we should tell my mom in order to comfort her before she see's that justice is served? Is there options that I can explain to her like "Witness protection" or "Restraining orders"




Thanks you for your time.

There is no "witness protection" in child support cases.

If she can prove from current things he does or says, she can get a restraining order, but he has to be proven a threat first.

And if he is really dangerous, if he is going to break the law to hurt her, do you think a restraining order will stop him ? So when caught, he is guilty of hurting her and breaking a restraining order.

While almost 80 percent or so of the time, Men threaten all sorts of things, some men are mean and are dangerous.
Women are hurt, put in the hospital, and even killed every year over custody and child support issues.
So yes she has a right, but only she knows the danger she could be in.