I was in a relationship since one and a half year, my boyfriend did not respect me, but he always claimed he loved me. He was at my disposal whenever I required help. He used to say before us getting in a relation he felt for me since past 2 yrs and his only wish was to get me in his life. Gradually when I got in the relationship, one month it was a fairy tale, but who knew after that it will be a worst night mare for me!

He doubted in me because in past I had been in a very serious relationship I cleared him, no, now I don't feel for him. This topic dragged quite a few months, and then I got ill, and he cared a lot at that time, but due to acute illness I use to remain irritated and low, because of that he made my cry and run behind him for 1 complete month. He never used to make me stop from crying. In fact he rather use to walk away or disconnect phone in my face and say this is your routine job! Keep crying!

Whenever I use to do anything special for him he never appreciated instead made me cry and weep and use to say how did you go somewhere without telling me, you know I hate all this. We never use to meet except college, no dates no romance nothing at all, because he enjoyed my company with group of friends. He claimed he gets bored alone!

He never trusted me, and I had blind faith on him! He was an over possessive, didn't gave me my space, I was not allowed to roam beyond 7! Or freak with drones all day, make new friends, or even wear the clothes I use to wish to. He even doubted on a brother sis relationship, just because I deleted to conversation! Because of him I've been hospitalized several times. And he did not care. He makes me feel low, makes me cry then one day someone who used to like me in the past became my friend, secretively! I did not tell my boyfriend for 3 to 4 months later out of anger and his deeds I told him because he was crying, so he claimed that I cheated upon him! I got a side affair and what not. I told him he was just a friend, my boyfriend said why only that guy liked you... I simply said because he was a convenient option! That is it!

Now I'm no longer with my friend because I did not wish to betray my boyfriend. My boyfriend says he does not wish to be with me anymore. And now he treats me worse than a slave. He talks rudely! He treats me bad! What should I do now? I'm in midst of my exams and I love him so much.

Where am I at fault! Just because I made a friend without telling him, OK it’s a mistake I accept, but does that mean he can now treat me the way he wishes to?

If he is such a bad loser, get rid of him because I doubt he changes.

Talaniman! I'm so in depressed ! I cannt eat can't sleep cnt concentrate . Seems like I'm going crazily mad! I loved him truly! And now its hurting me bad! It has pierced a hole in my heart literally:'(

Relax, things happen for a reason, and obviously he was not what you wanted, but settled for to have someone. Its is life without him that you now have to face, since honest communications made no impact on how you behaved to each other.

Indeed you have never written why you love him, only his bad behavior that you allowed. If you are depressed he treats you badly, have no more to do with him, and leave him alone, and ignore him. And that hole in your heart will heal, when you treat, and protect it better than you have been, and not allow some fool to treat you as a slave and be controlling and RUDE!!

Who puts up with that kind of crap any way?? Stop acting like a junkie who needs a fix, even though they know the dope is killing them!!

Stand up for yourself, and do better!

Making friends is never a mistake, just because your insecure, and over possive boyfriend says it is, it doesn't mean that you need to eat out of his hands. Break up with him, learn to value yourself, and give yourself some self respect. If he leaves, then he has done you a favor, if he doesn't, then you leave him, either way YOU WIN.

javi,
I made a friend secretively hiding it frm m boyfriend, because I was scared of him. My friend had feelings fr me andmybf knew this and he hated him, n never wnted me to tal to him. Still I did, am I still right?
I've lost all myself confidence.:(
I had no friends, I need one as my support, because my boyfriend use to leave me crying weeping begging anytime in the mid way.he did not value me at all

You are the one letting him tell you what to do and going behind his back isn't justified. Dump him and do as you please when you please, and not hide it. To bad you would rather cry than tell him to screw himself when he acts a butt.

He acts bad you cry and get a secret friend? Stop making dumb excuses as to why you cannot stand up for yourself! That's all messed up!

Sorry, you tell him of your friends, get several, don't let him control you.

This is not love, it is abuse and control. What you feel is love is just the level of abuse and expecting and getting used to being treated that way.

I guess, you all are right!I'm stuck up with an idiot , a loser indeedonception greater than his life that he owns me!
I'm living like a mere puppet,I shoul break free!
May be then he realises!
Oops!I forgot realisations are made by wise people not retards and fools!
So let it be I must take corrective measures to put my life back on the track that is worthwhile living!
I must stand tall across the crowd and make up my own importance!
Because I deserve it, just like everyone else!

I guess, you all are right!I'm stuck up with an idiot , a loser indeed **has a misconception greater than his life that he owns me!
I'm living like a mere puppet,I shoul break free!
May be then he realises!
Oops!I forgot realisations are made by wise people not retards and fools!
So let it be I must take corrective measures to put my life back on the track that is worthwhile living!
I must stand tall across the crowd and make up my own importance!
Because I deserve it, just like everyone else!

I guess, you all are right!I'm stuck up with an idiot , a loser indeed whose misconception of owning me is greater than his life!
I'm living like a mere puppet,I shoul break free!
May be then he realises!
Oops!I forgot realisations are made by wise people not retards and fools!
So let it be I must take corrective measures to put my life back on the track that is worthwhile living!
I must stand tall across the crowd and make up my own importance!
Because I deserve it, just like everyone else!

Babe.First of all Your not married to this guy. It may hurt but I advice You to let go of Him.Look out for opportunities for adventures like making new friends change Yr looks.Avoid calling Him for a while and stop the crying baby attitude to preserve Your well deserved Health.

My boyfriend hit me , he abused me .I was dead scared. I called up my brother. His parents apologised to me me, but his mother lied that she will let her contact me with his son(my ex). Evn after being hit I saved my ex who was my love frm my brother, so that he doesn't hits him. By manipulating the situation. I couldn't live w/o my ex, one day I called at my ex landline and talked to his mon saying , I wnt to talk to your son, why rnt you letting me? I really love him. She called me beta, (but she lied) so I said her don't cl me beta , mother's nvr hurt dr children and you did. She made me tok to him , bt she claimed I was drunk. She manipulated his son in such a way and kept him away frm
Me. Then His mum said to my mum, dt my son is not interested in your daughter anymore. He doesn't wishes to talk. You better handle her! Its useless running behind my son! I really love him even though he abused me hit me treated me bad... Yet I cnt get over this relationship...

Give it time, you need to learn how to respect yourself so that you don't get abused again. There is a big different between being in love and being obsessed to the point of making dumb choices, such as you wanting to go back with someone who disrespects you. Go no contact and move on, there are millions of guys that will be better for you than this one.

Give it time, you need to learn how to respect yourself so that you don't get abused again. There is a big different between being in love and being obsessed to the point of making dumb choices, such as you wanting to go back with someone who disrespects you. Go no contact and move on, there are millions of guys that will be better for you than this one.



I really want to get over. But my feeling . Our memories . His thoughts have just clouded my mind. I really love him. And there's no way that I can get back to him. Everyone explains me that , he's a jerk. But I just cnt conquer my own feeling fr him. I keep trying him frm diff. Numbers. He never attends my call, nor does he ever turn up. Will I be this way forever, and won't he ever realise my worth and his fault. Why is god being so unkind to me?

Why is love such a pain? It's a heart ache:(
I really love him... Its so tough so difficult without hin! Till what extent can I lead life with a fake smile on? Till what extent he can be cruel ? I want to get out this dark phase of life. I really want to but seems like I just can't :( this is sick.I cnt luve with a heart break anymore. But he does not even care about whether I survive or die? Where from such inhumane attitude he brings? How can someone lie fr almost 2 yrs , dt he loved me? Why me?

PLEASE stop opening new threads - you've been posting about this since May and you've ignored all advice.

I just answered your last question - if you are serious about suicide you MUST seek professional help.

You are thinking you won't kill yourself because you love your parents? What about the child you will leave behind?

PLEASE stop opening new threads - you've been posting about this since May and you've ignored all advice.

I just answered your last question - if you are serious about suicide you MUST seek professional help.

You are thinking you won't kill yourself because you love your parents? What about the child you will leave behind?
I am not married to this guy, I hv no child to leave behind. I am just not being able to get over him. These instances follwed after that. So I really needed help

As I said, I had trouble following your story.

I know you need help - where are you looking for it? Nothing that's been said here over the past couple months seems to have changed anything.

What do you do to stay busy? Work, go to school, something else?

This is going to sound harsh but it sounds like you drove him away - I see a lot of hysterical behavior, calling his mother, crying (when he asked you to stop). Being unable to let go. You need to speak to someone. He tried to warn you but it sounds like you were out of control.

Please - get professional help.

Your first mistake is allowing him to treat you this way... yes I said ALLOWING him to treat you this way. If you would have put your foot down at the first case of him showing his insecurities and mentally ill lack of love attitude towards you then this wouldn't have happened. But we can't do anything about the past, is time to let go, break up with him, leave him, erase him from everywhere, and if he comes after you (which I am almost certain he will), you call the police. You can't get over someone while you are still with him, you need to remove yourself from the situation, go no contact, and start rebuilding your life to be a healthy one, you will one day meet someone that value and loves you, this is not the person.

Your first mistake is allowing him to treat you this way... yes I said ALLOWING him to treat you this way. If you would have put your foot down at the first case of him showing his insecurities and mentally ill lack of love attitude towards you then this wouldn't have happened. But we can't do anything about the past, is time to let go, break up with him, leave him, erase him from everywhere, and if he comes after you (which I am almost certain he will), you call the police. You can't get over someone while you are still with him, you need to remove yourself from the situation, go no contact, and start rebuilding your life to be a healthy one, you will one day meet someone that value and loves you, this is not the person.

Thanks a lot for your advice. I have brojrn up already just getting over was being very tough. But whenever I read such inspirational counselling it makes things a lot easier for me. I sincerely thank you.