Before I got married, I was involved with my husband's friend, Ohm, who was also my direct report. My husband had been posted overseas then and we had been having a long distance relationship for almost a year plus at that time.

I knew my Ohm for almost 7 years and nothing happened during those time, until 6 months before my wedding.
Ohm and I fell in love head over heels but the wedding invitations had been mailed out to friends and relatives.
Ohm has a reputable status in the company for being a player. I did not take any steps to change my wedding because I assumed that he was only playing with me.
Everything was to finish up and move on after the day I got wedded, but the love got stronger and even now, 6 months after the wedding, Ohm and I are stll in contact.

We tried to ignore each other calls, messages, email, but that lasted only for a week max.

Eventually I keep telling myself, Ohm might be having a bad intention in breaking my marriage and will eventually leave me after I left my husband (should I choose Ohm eventually).

I can't sleep well as I dreamt of Ohm every night without failed. I am really at lost.
Both our feeling is so intense.. never had I experience this kind of intensity in a relationship.

Sex life with my husband was afftected too, as it always remind me of Ohm.

My siblings and friends assured me that Ohm is only out to ruin my marriage, as he sees me as the "Forbidden Fruit" - a big challenge for him (he love challenges)

I am lost and ned some advices, please... Thank you.