ashleigh87
May 12, 2012, 11:53 PM
So I’ve been with my partner going on three years this October. Our relationship at the start was great but then it went terrible and I stayed with him when I shouldn't off. We saw each other from Thursday- Sunday however he works full time and so do I so it was on the evenings on Thursday Friday and Saturday and all Day Sunday. All his friends are single and still very immature my partner is 23 soon I'm 25 in October.
Anyway we broke up in July as things were just unbearable he deleted me from Facebook, blocked me and changed his number ( he broke up with me over the phone) he went away with his single buddies a week later to Queensland for a few days which was already planned. He came back from Queensland and we started talking again and seeing each other, he then felt guilty for what I see now as his stuff up and started trying to catch me out on things I hadn't done, he spoke to someone and asked him if I knew this particular guy and this guy who now didn't like me decided to make up all these stories and tell my ex at the time he had been sleeping with me and all this nonsense. We were in the processing of mending our relationship and this just threw that away.
I called the guy and made him tell my ex that he was lying but it seemed to late the damage was done. This went on for months my ex trying to catch me out for something. Until in October I found out something about him by mistake and confronted him he admitted it and I stopped talking to him. He then messaged me saying it was stupid and that he loved me so much and this could work. So we got back together that was in October last year. Since then our relationship has strengthened and things have come a long way, we went away for a night a few weeks back it was really going well. Then 2 weeks ago I was supposed to go to a family function with him and he didn't want to go and we had tickets to something else. However his mum was laying a guilt trip on him telling him if he didn't go it would look bad. However his 2 older sisters who don’t live at home didn’t have to go. So I became upset with him and told him he needs to make his own choices in life not his mum.
I then had a lot of other things going on at the same time and became frustrated to which I posted a Facebook status stating " People need to stop meddling in other people’s business and get a life seriously" apparently his younger brother showed his mum and advised her it was aimed at her. I saw there mum that night and she said nothing about it, I ended up having a massive argument with my partner about it and denying that it wasn't about her. I left in a hurry and didn't even end up going out with him.
Since then he has hardly seen me a few times after work for 30 minutes to talk but he keeps saying he wants space and to go on a holiday away from everything. Last Saturday he came over and we watched TV in my room and he cuddled me and told me things would be OK and that he loved me. Since then he told me he is going to Europe in 2 weeks with his mates (he only just booked last minute they were already going). He’s told me he needs to do this for himself and he needs to get away from everything. He hasn't told his work he is leaving to go which is unlike him because he never usually does not work for fear of being sacked as he works in the construction industry, so he is not going to have a job to come back to.
He told me he needs to do this before he settles down in life and that he only has one chance at it. Since then he is still messaging me and I know he feels bad but I don't know what to do. I LOVE him so much and I can’t think of ever being with anyone else. I know it will eventually get easier but what do you think is going on with him and how could he just ditch me like that?
Anyway we broke up in July as things were just unbearable he deleted me from Facebook, blocked me and changed his number ( he broke up with me over the phone) he went away with his single buddies a week later to Queensland for a few days which was already planned. He came back from Queensland and we started talking again and seeing each other, he then felt guilty for what I see now as his stuff up and started trying to catch me out on things I hadn't done, he spoke to someone and asked him if I knew this particular guy and this guy who now didn't like me decided to make up all these stories and tell my ex at the time he had been sleeping with me and all this nonsense. We were in the processing of mending our relationship and this just threw that away.
I called the guy and made him tell my ex that he was lying but it seemed to late the damage was done. This went on for months my ex trying to catch me out for something. Until in October I found out something about him by mistake and confronted him he admitted it and I stopped talking to him. He then messaged me saying it was stupid and that he loved me so much and this could work. So we got back together that was in October last year. Since then our relationship has strengthened and things have come a long way, we went away for a night a few weeks back it was really going well. Then 2 weeks ago I was supposed to go to a family function with him and he didn't want to go and we had tickets to something else. However his mum was laying a guilt trip on him telling him if he didn't go it would look bad. However his 2 older sisters who don’t live at home didn’t have to go. So I became upset with him and told him he needs to make his own choices in life not his mum.
I then had a lot of other things going on at the same time and became frustrated to which I posted a Facebook status stating " People need to stop meddling in other people’s business and get a life seriously" apparently his younger brother showed his mum and advised her it was aimed at her. I saw there mum that night and she said nothing about it, I ended up having a massive argument with my partner about it and denying that it wasn't about her. I left in a hurry and didn't even end up going out with him.
Since then he has hardly seen me a few times after work for 30 minutes to talk but he keeps saying he wants space and to go on a holiday away from everything. Last Saturday he came over and we watched TV in my room and he cuddled me and told me things would be OK and that he loved me. Since then he told me he is going to Europe in 2 weeks with his mates (he only just booked last minute they were already going). He’s told me he needs to do this for himself and he needs to get away from everything. He hasn't told his work he is leaving to go which is unlike him because he never usually does not work for fear of being sacked as he works in the construction industry, so he is not going to have a job to come back to.
He told me he needs to do this before he settles down in life and that he only has one chance at it. Since then he is still messaging me and I know he feels bad but I don't know what to do. I LOVE him so much and I can’t think of ever being with anyone else. I know it will eventually get easier but what do you think is going on with him and how could he just ditch me like that?