Log in

View Full Version : My husband and I hardly have sex


jennifer198328
May 12, 2012, 03:44 PM
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. We've been through 2 miscarriages in a lot of arguments. But lately just don't want to have sex and I don't understand why and I asked him is it me! He says it's not but I think it is. He wants to try for another baby but how is that possible when he don't you want to have sex? What should I do to make our sex life better? Maybe that's what it is... Idk

DoulaLC
May 12, 2012, 04:33 PM
It's quite possible that he is simply afraid of experiencing another miscarriage. The fear of that will sometimes cause both men and women to refrain from having sex, even when they really want to have a baby.

Were the arguments in relationship to the miscarriages? How well do you think that you both dealt with the losses? What is his response if you initiate intimacy? Have you tried being intimate without it having to lead to sex? Perhaps just focusing on reconnecting emotionally first for awhile. Forget the physical act of sex for now.