G-Series
May 8, 2012, 07:39 PM
Hi,
I'm not one to really reach out for advice but I've got this one issue (I think it's an issue anyway... ) with my current girlfriend. We were together for 4 years, and split up for about 2 months on an unexpected "break", but are now together again with the knowing that we can fix our problems and move on.
I love this woman with everything I have, and always will. I guess that's sort of why I'm trying to get advice... I don't want to bring something up to her that isn't really an issue.
She LOVES to roam the internet about different things, and I am very trusting in what she does (not worrying about dating sites... etc), but it's the level at which she does this that has sort of started to rub me the wrong way.
She has had a group of internet friends for quite some time, and chats with them openly online over Skype and other applications like that, about anything and everything, including personal topics. She helps them setup real-time streaming of games/movies and chats with these people as they do this. Recently, I was talking to her online (via IM) and noticed she hadn't replied in a while, so I got her attention and asked what she was up to. She told me she was talking with one of her online friends about some very heavy family drama that was going on in this other persons life... and I found that really odd. I've accepted the fact that this is what she loves to do, and really does enjoy it - but at what point does it become just plain out strange? I guess it's a very strange idea to be able to talk so freely to someone, you have never met, do not know their intentions or anything about them. (Ironically, I'm submitting this! HA!) She is so well into this group of people that at times it feels like that's all she does.
Simple things have gotten changed by this - example: We play online games together as we are both computer nerds. Well, this has stopped a while ago as most games I would play with her she now plays with this group of friends - Oh, and also I may add that she attempted to date one of these "friends" as we were on our 2 month break, which sort of sends a bad vibe to me also.
I suppose my true question is - Should I be worried/upset about her doing this?
I have a feeling I will feel the same regardless of the outcome of this message, but I've never asked someone else about this and maybe another opinion is due.
I have anxiety/depression so once a thought is in my head, it's more or less a snowball effect.
I don't want to make this a huge deal unless it truly is a problem, and I've discussed this several times with her - and we always seem to come back to the fact that it is me not trusting what she is doing, or knowing what she is up to that is causing me to feel this way. (Which isn't too far of a stretch as I am pretty obsessive over her).
Any/all help with this is greatly appreciated... I know this is a lot to understand, but please let me know if there's more information you may need that I have not provided, and I appologize if the format of this request is not... correct, as this is my first time trying to gain advice.
Thank you! I look forward to any replies!
I'm not one to really reach out for advice but I've got this one issue (I think it's an issue anyway... ) with my current girlfriend. We were together for 4 years, and split up for about 2 months on an unexpected "break", but are now together again with the knowing that we can fix our problems and move on.
I love this woman with everything I have, and always will. I guess that's sort of why I'm trying to get advice... I don't want to bring something up to her that isn't really an issue.
She LOVES to roam the internet about different things, and I am very trusting in what she does (not worrying about dating sites... etc), but it's the level at which she does this that has sort of started to rub me the wrong way.
She has had a group of internet friends for quite some time, and chats with them openly online over Skype and other applications like that, about anything and everything, including personal topics. She helps them setup real-time streaming of games/movies and chats with these people as they do this. Recently, I was talking to her online (via IM) and noticed she hadn't replied in a while, so I got her attention and asked what she was up to. She told me she was talking with one of her online friends about some very heavy family drama that was going on in this other persons life... and I found that really odd. I've accepted the fact that this is what she loves to do, and really does enjoy it - but at what point does it become just plain out strange? I guess it's a very strange idea to be able to talk so freely to someone, you have never met, do not know their intentions or anything about them. (Ironically, I'm submitting this! HA!) She is so well into this group of people that at times it feels like that's all she does.
Simple things have gotten changed by this - example: We play online games together as we are both computer nerds. Well, this has stopped a while ago as most games I would play with her she now plays with this group of friends - Oh, and also I may add that she attempted to date one of these "friends" as we were on our 2 month break, which sort of sends a bad vibe to me also.
I suppose my true question is - Should I be worried/upset about her doing this?
I have a feeling I will feel the same regardless of the outcome of this message, but I've never asked someone else about this and maybe another opinion is due.
I have anxiety/depression so once a thought is in my head, it's more or less a snowball effect.
I don't want to make this a huge deal unless it truly is a problem, and I've discussed this several times with her - and we always seem to come back to the fact that it is me not trusting what she is doing, or knowing what she is up to that is causing me to feel this way. (Which isn't too far of a stretch as I am pretty obsessive over her).
Any/all help with this is greatly appreciated... I know this is a lot to understand, but please let me know if there's more information you may need that I have not provided, and I appologize if the format of this request is not... correct, as this is my first time trying to gain advice.
Thank you! I look forward to any replies!