Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months, I'm his first girlfriend.

We met through another friend, but I found out that he liked her.
He couldn't have her since she was already in a relationship.
So I fought for him, for this relationship to happen.

I finally got him and we started a relationship together.

For about 1 month ago we were visiting his family in another town.
I had best friends who lived 30 minutes away with train from where his family lives.

We went and see my friends, and he met them for the first time.

I recently found out that he's in love with one of my best friends who we met when we were visiting his family.
He told me that he failed for her and her personality, but he's not going to do anything about it.
He wanted to work on our relationship and try to forget about her.
But it's just a crush or something right? It doesn't mean that he don't love me?

But why is it so hard for him to love me?
I can honestly say that even I and some of our friends can see what he really feels, but he can't feel or tell what he feels yet.

He cries for me every time we are fighting, and I cry.
He wants me to stay by his side and he's afraid of losing me.
He holds me, grabs my hand and begs me to stay every time I'm going to run away after a fight.
He's not the jealousy type but he gets jealous sometimes but not very often.
That says more than a thousand words they say, and I mean so to.
It means that he does feel something and he do have feelings, but why doesn't he know? Is it because he's new at this?

I honestly don't know what to do, I want to save my relationship and I want him to know his feelings, since when he's in love with my friends he's not really in love, he's just attracted by them. But he thinks that it has an effect on what he feels about me.

What should I do?
I tried to talk to him, how relationship works, how feelings work and everything.
I love him and I don't want to lose him.
I know deep inside he have feelings he just need to be open for it, open for me.

What should I do? I'm so lost!

Don't let his inexperience and lack of self knowledge make you insecure or needy, just enjoy growing closer, and getting to know each other. How old are you both because you don't sound any more experienced or knowledgeable as he does.

Confidence, and patience are the keys here. As you learn understanding of each other.

Act confident and move on with life. If he wishes to be with you, then great, if he has other things in his mind, then it is time to let him wander off. You are not making any mistakes, and it is WRONG for you to want to MAKE someone love you, it either happens, or it doesn't. You have invested your efforts into this relationship, if they are not reciprocated, then this isn't a very healthy relationship is it?

Don't let his inexperience and lack of self knowledge make you insecure or needy, just enjoy growing closer, and getting to know each other. How old are you both because you don't sound any more experienced or knowledgeable as he does.

Confidence, and patience are the keys here. As you learn understanding of each other.

Well we both are 21 and he's the first guy that I've ever been with who treats me like a girl should be treathed in a relationship.


Act confident and move on with life. If he wishes to be with you, then great, if he has other things in his mind, then it is time to let him wander off. You are not making any mistakes, and it is WRONG for you to want to MAKE someone love you, it either happens, or it doesn't. You have invested your efforts into this relationship, if they are not reciprocated, then this isn't a very healthy relationship is it?

Sure I want him to love me, but I never wanted to make him love me..
He wanted to be with me and forget about her, but I don't know if he's going to be able to love me, but still yesterday he said that he did.
I don't know now if I should be happy or not, since I know he has a crush on my best friend, and suddently a few ays after he told me that, he says that he loves me...
I don't even know if I should believe him or not.
But he wanted to make this relationship work, and he wanted to be with me. So I will try to make it work.
Thanks, ill try to be confident :)