I swear to god this is like the worst relationship ever. Ok me and my boyfriend just started dating like 7 months ago. The relationship was perfect at first. Later on that month to be exact, he started acting distant barely talking to me. Then came the argument. He told me he had to tell me the truth. I asked what it was, he says I need to tell you how many times I've cheated on you I asked how many he says five.

I was shocked and he got mad at me telling me to go die no one cares about me, and that he never loved me. Then I get a call from his brother and he said he cheated on me more than twenty times! I don't know who to believe I love him but I don't know anymore after this what do I do? :(

You need to dump him. Like that isn't right and you should settle for someone like that. Good luck be strong

Leave him.

Don't waste your tears, time, emotions on him.

It will be hard, heart shattering, painful, but trust be, leaving him will be the best decision you will make.

You need to leave him.

5 times, or 20! Doesn't matter. Once was enough cheating. Have nothing more to do with him.

Ik I do , whts really bad is he pretended to kill hisself just to see if I had really cared about him and he basically I think was using me bcs he always every time I tlked to him he was aureus saying he wanted me for sex, do and I don't know hour to get him to leave me alone

Tell him to stop stalking you or you will call a cop, or a male friend. Follow through with your threat.

Is the number of times really relevant, he has cheated, break things off completely and start moving on. I agree with talaniman on the stalking, keep 911 dialed and don't allow him to manipulate you.

Yeah I should , I just don't understand y he was getting mad at me n telling me to go die n that he's going to rape me

Why would u try to understand? You should try to get as far away from this guy as possible.

I guess he's just a d*** in just get over him n let him go have his fun with his little lovers n enjoy my life

Does he really love me ?

I love my boyfriend with all my heart its been almost a 6 months this month he starts acting distant hanging up on me on the phone author saying bye n never calling back or messaging n the fights start to happen , now he used to b all sweetn stuff now all he talks about os us having sex n every time I txt thts the first thing he says he's always saying what he wants to do with me, n when he strts bsing livery dovey I day I love you he disappears dsnt day it back anymore like At ALL. Does he love anymire cause I can't take this anymore the thght keeps rolling around n my mind.

Sounds like perhaps he expected to be having sex in 6 months and was using trying to break up or distance to make you chase him hoping you would get to be used by having sex trying to keep him.

How old are both of you, since often age matters in what the boys think.

Maybe he was I jean like he dsnt even talk to he when I'm on the phone with him he said hold on and I cn hear him txting then he hangs up, and I don't hear from jim for three straight days, he barely says I love you anymore , just that one thing when I tdy to get off the topic he ignores it and disappears and I'm 18 he's 20

Everyone is going to tell you to brake up with him. I agree with them, but ill tell you what not to do. Don't ever EVER go and cheat on him to get him back.

Sounds as though he is more interested in the sex you are providing than in a relationship with you. Maybe he has just become too comfortable and has fallen in to taking you for granted.

Let him disappear for awhile without you contacting him. Instead, start doing more things with your friends and family. Consider backing off on the sex until you know where the relationship stands. If it is not the kind of relationship that you want, then don't continue to have sex with him in hopes of getting him to want to be more involved.

Talk to him about it. Either he is committed to the relationship or he isn't. With a bit of time without your text, phone calls, etc. maybe he will decide... or maybe you will.

Editors Note- The TWO threads were merged together for all the facts in one place to avoid confusion. ALSO chat/text is against the rules, and hard to understand, and effect the advice and suggestions by posters.

I also forgot to mention he always makes promises to me but never commits to them n thnxs for for advice maybe it will help of it dsnt strt approving then I gss I k where I stand

He has cheated on you numerous times, has told you to go die and that he never loved you, uses you for sex... and you allow it, and you want to know what to do??

Why are you even still wanting to be with him? Stay and you will get more of the same.

Here's what you do: leave him, end it, no more contact, move on, stop taking the abuse

No I'm depressed as hell, and pissed I don't want his abuse no more and I'm not contacting bim, hrs contacting me

No im depressed as hell, n pissed I dnt want his abuse no more n I'm not contacting bim, hrs contacting me

Stop making excuses for yourself. It is not that hard. If he keep contacting you, all you have to do is avoid his contacts. Everyone here gave you the same advice, yet you keep trying to ask the same thing hoping for a different answer. You're only depressed because you still responding to him when he tries to contact you. If you can't see that you deserve better than how you he is treating you, perhaps you two are made for each other.

No I'm over him I do ignore I've deleted him and evening I by even think any him anymore so I'm good I don't need no advice anymore thanks

Well me n my boyfriend have been going out for a while now n well last might he started acting strange I.asked him was he OK he said kindof n I said what's wrong n he says nothing I think I shld just go n I said no tell me n he sayd I'm going, n he hung up I txted him saying tell me what's wrong, n I knew it was something bad bcs this has happened before n he says I kissed another girl today n I told OK its over bye n he called saying hey I said hi n he said it was more than just kissing n I told him I cldnt do this anymore bcs he s did this before I togs him we shld just break up n he daid noo ill kill myself if u leave me, I don't k what to do :S

He not good for u leave him

I'm afriad he might kil hisself I don't want or need that on my convos n I'm trying to leave him but I dj what to do.abt the killing thing

What if he thought you would kill yourself if he cheated on you by kissing (or more) someone else?

He would probably not cheat on me anymore, but he poetically wldnt care he dsmt care if I'm feeling bad he just go to the subject about sex

You do realize that, by threatening suicide, he's manipulating you to stick around, don't you? You're giving him all your power.

Yeah I gss I k he's not going to do it, bcs if he was he wld have done it now,n I just want to get rid of him I'm tired of his bs , so thanks for the advice maybe it wel help

And the next time you post, you will write in English so we can read it?

No I write n txt form where I shorten the words but OK

No texting is allowed on this site.

I don't text I just write and text you know how yiu talk in text where you like phrase the words so there shorter well that's what,I do

That's what I mean and I sometimes type in the wrong key

No texting. Pretend your fourth grade teacher is watching and checking your spelling.

Um OK n I don't text ever I know it us not allowed an I don't do it

Yeah I gss I k hes not gonna do it, bcs if he was he wld have done it now,n I just want to get rid of him im tired of his bs , so thanks for the advice maybe it wel help
You don't text? Hmmmm.

Oh, and you have to spell words correctly too. And use capitals and punctuation.

Umm okay

Leave him simple as that never let someone emotional control you.

I have no sympathy for people who threat others with the act of killing ones self..

This is off the cuff and I will probable get a lot of bad press for this..
And this is my opinion.
And I in no way want for this to happen. Again only a though..

But if he does kill himself then hopefully one of the poor people in this world that is hanging onto life.. With cancer. Will get a 2nd chance
This world and life should only be for the people that want to be in it.
As for the rest. Well enjoy oblivion.

Just to go back to my point cut this kid lose.. H is a patheic exsecues for a human being. And as for killing himself.. Well if he does it's not your fault.. It's the act of a very very weak mind trying to escape his problems.

Leave him. He won't kill himself. He will cheat on you again. Simple.

I asked y he would do that n he says he doesn't want to be alone yeah that sounds pathetic , and wow you are right truthfaith I have more important stuff to worry about than him,when he said he didn't want to be alone that was enough to tell me he did not care one bit about me

No he doesn't care, he just needs somebody around to cater to his own needs and fear, and if you free yourself by leaving, he will get a new victim. Hmmm, he will get a new victim whether you leave him alone, or NOT!!

So leave him alone and stop being his loving willing victim!