Me and my girlfriend have been together for two and a half years and she got pregnant around the last week of December. The thing is we were broke up at the time but we were still talking. A lot of things happened that week and I'm getting very confused, upset, and frustrated.

First of all I am a very honest man. I'm 18 and she is 17 and I have never cheated on her ever cause its wrong and if you need to cheat on someone then you shouldn't be with them. Anyway, she cheated on me sometime in the middle of October with another guy. We broke up cause we argued a lot but we promised each other to be faithful and work it out.

Two days later I found out from her brother she is talking to one of her exs and another one of her exs. Then I figure out she is at her exs house. I called her and she denied everything till I told her I definitely knew then she cried. She said they only kissed and I am in college so I drive all the way to her house a three hour drive to fix everything. We get back together. Three months later we break up for something stupid.

I learn that she had sex with her ex in October. Plus I learned that she was talking to him when we were together and she was talking to another guy when we broke up and she promised not to. So she lied again. Remind you that she has talked to guys behind my back before and I have caught her. So anyway she talks to another dude and later after all this I learn that they kissed on new years and . Which pisses me off but whatever.

So after I learn this I stopped talking to her. She texts me like a day latere saying she can't live without me and that she made a huge mistake. I'm on December winter break and I went over to her house a couple times, we had sex without a condom but she's on birth control. So a few weeks go by and we are still broken up but she comes to college and we have sex some more in January then we learn that she is pregnant.

The catch is the she showed me a thing on Facebook and I went through her messages and found out that when she told me that this tattoo guy messaged her trying to flirt with her she ignored her but they actually flirted big time. (another lie ) also my family keeps saying its not mine and that she was going around when I was at college.

I know she sounds like a slut but she kind of is I guess. She definitely lied to me many times before and has done a lot of stuff behind my back. But the doctor says that she was conceived sometime at the end of December. We had sex within like a week or more when the doctor said she got pregnant but I think she had sex with the guy she claims she kissed during new years or christmas or whatever. My parents said she did and they won't tell me who told them but my parents believe like any rumor too. They also said she slept around a lot.. but they have like zero proof that I know of.

What's killing me is that she will not get a paternity test cause its dangerous but its not I looked up and they can just do blood work with new technology they have for an accurate reading. She ignores this and stays with her answer so now I have to wait till she's due in September 27. Her parents say that the baby has to be mine cause I was the one who was there during her conceived week. But so was that other kid. And her parents don't know about what she does cause they didn't know when she cheated the "first" time cause they're idiots.

Now we are still together and honestly I really hope this kid is not mine so I can move on with my life and concentrate on my college work. But if this kid is mine I want to give it my full attention and not be a bad father. The thing is though she treats me like sometimes so I grow balls and break up with her( which I would usually never do) cause I deserve to be treated like she cares.

But anyway she's pregnant and my family says its not mine and she says it is. We are having a dna test after the birth. This whole situation stresses me out and I'm sick of being lied to. I don't know what to do. There's a possibility she has been ing around behind my back I just wish I had hard evidence cause I'm not ready for a kid. Please give me as much advice as possible

There is some risk to doing the testing now, and many doctors will not order the procedures simply to determine paternity because of the risk. You would also need to see if there was even a location near you that would perform the tests for that purpose. You obviously would need for her to be in agreement to start with, which she apparently is not.

Since there is no way to know for sure whether she was with someone else around the same time as you, you will have to wait until the baby is born to know for certain.

With all of the cheating and lies, is there a particular reason that you are together now? You can be there for the child after the birth, if it is determined that you are the father, for now you could start focusing on your college work and moving on.

Knowing she has slept around, why would you risk having sex with her without protection in the first place. I know it's a moot point now, but take heed- taking that chance of her becoming pregnant, or you picking up an STD just isn't worth the risk. Not to mention by the sounds of things, she shouldn't be trusted if she says she's on the pill.

You have no obligation to her. You have an obligation to this baby, if this baby is in fact, yours. Speculating at this point won't solve any problems. When the baby is born, she may be inclined to get a paternity test if you refuse to support the baby, and her, without knowing if it is yours or not. Please don't just take her word for it if Aunt Selma says the baby looks just like you.

I realize that it must be very, very difficult to have everybody in gossip mode about who the father of this baby is, but don't be afraid to shut them down. Should all the disrespect they are showing toward the (possible) mother of your child, they will most certainly regret it later on down the road, if the baby is yours.

I really do feel sorry for you that you are in the position you are in. All you can do, is wait.

Your advice is helpful and that's what I plan on doing. The reason we are still together is I want to be helpful and there for the baby if its mine through the pregnency. I love her.. but I don't know its reeally hard thanks for the advice

your advice is helpful and thats what i plan on doing. the reason we are still together is i want to be helpful and there for the baby if its mine through the pregnency. i love her .. but idk its reeally hard thanks for the advice

I'm confused... How are you related to Mylifesamess? The OP?

I'm confused....How are you related to Mylifesamess? The OP?

No made another account so my user name wasn't depressing.