My lady friend says she had her last menstruation start on 31st Dec 2011 and end on 2nd January 2012. I slept with her on 10th February 2012 and she says she is pregnant! She had no menstruation in February. Can someone explain this?

My lady friend says she had her last menstruation start on 31st Dec 2011 and end on 2nd January 2012. I slept with her on 10th February 2012 and she says she is pregnant! She had no menstruation in February. Can someone explain this?

I must add that she says had no menstruation in January either and has been on the pill!

Well the first of Jan would be considered Jan but.

1. many women miss periods from time to time.
2. she could have already been pregnant by someone else
3. She missed a period or it was very light and you got her pregnant.
4. she is lying to you and trying to scam you out of money for doctors or abortion.

If she is wanting an abortion and wants you to pay for it, and you want to pay for it ( you have no legal obligation to) agree to drive her to the clinic and pay for it in person.

This has become a common scam, you meet a women, you don't really know, have sex and then they want 500 to 1000 dollars for an abortion.

Is it possible then for someone on the pill to miss a period?

Is it possible then for someone on the pill to miss a period?


It's possible... just as it is possible to become pregnant even while taking the pill. How well do you know her? How long have you been dating? How far along is she and when is her due date?

From your questioning, it appears you aren't entirely sure that you are possibly the father.

@DoulaLC it is hazy & I must admit I don't know her very well. We are not in a relationship and you are right I am not entirely sure in fact I suspect foul play! My mental red flag popedup when after the act she unsolitedly kept on talking about how she didn't expect to be pregnant as she was on the pill, she said she attempted a termination which made her bleed for close to a month & she was very sick & in hospital. She could barely walk & she was sutured to stop bleeding. Then a after all this ascan showed she was 3months pregnant! Her stories are inconsistent! And we are in different towns. I have sent her some money a couple times!

Since you aren't in a relationship, you may want to just be upfront and tell her that you have concerns about the timing and you being the father.

Do you know what the due date is? Do you know when she had the scan that showed 3 months?

You could ask to see the scan... it will likely show the gestational age (GA) and you could see how that coincides with the date it was taken (which will also show on it) and when you were with her. Do you know for a fact that she was in hospital?

Has she asked you for money or are you just helping her out? If she has asked, what did she say it was for?

Obviously it is up to you whether you want to continue to send her money. Since you don't know for certain that you are the father, you have no moral or legal obligation to do so.

If you are able to get a better idea of what one of the scans show, what the due date is, etc. you might have a better idea of whether you are possibly the father.

It is possible that you won't know for certain until after the baby is born and a DNA test can be done.

You know you are right! The money side of the story has been more or less induced without actually asking. I don't intend to send any more. At the moment all this is merely an allegation. In fact there is info I held out not wanting to influence anyone's answers that is I got in touch after a couple of weeks to find out how she was doing that is when she claimed she was pregnant and didn't know how the pill had not worked, etc.

It would seem that the best is to meet with her and actually see the scan if any, etc. No there is no way of proving if she has been in hospital or not. She claimed she didn't have a phone and could not be in touch. Strangely, I am the one who keeps in touch and each time there is a story of sorts. Yeah, lets wait and see how it all pans out. At the back of my mind I am wondering what the motive of all this is if indeed she may not even be pregnant at all. I don't want to believe that people go to these extremes to extort some buck!