Moved to its own thread, and edited.

WOW this is my exact senario I am looking for answers. I've talked to my boyfriend on multiple occasions over the years but he doesn't seem to have any explanation why he does it, he's not good with words or emotions. Even when he sent naked photos of himself to girls on cam sites (that I took by the way!) he just said that he wasn't thinking, she asked for a photo and he sent it. Said he didn't know it would upset me so much- I really can't believe men are that naïve? But he said that now he knows that cam sites upset me so much he would stop (I said still images were OK every now and then). And yet cam sites have been popping up more and more lately again and after actually marking on the calender which days he watches porn, I count at least 4 days a week every week over the last month.

My boyfriend obviously doesn't think he has a problem and I believe its not just me being over-jealous. I'm wondering if it is time we involved a counsellor? Men out there, do you think he would come?

I can agree that his behavior is selfish and unthinking, but he may be addicted to it. If he doesn't see it as a problem then he will be reluctant to get any help for it, but I think you confront this as a broken promise and see what he does and if he can be convinced to get help, or get gone.

If he can not control his behavior and does not know why he is doing it, yes time for a counselor