I am clueless as to what I should do and appreciate any outside advice. Here is my situation (apologizing in advance for the length). My husband is very high maintenance and incredibly needy. After a conversation we had this past weekend - he is upset that our life isn't what it use to be before our son was born. In a nutshell - he is jealous that his son gets more attention from me than he does. How is our life now? We have a 2 year old son who was recently diagnosed with autism. I am a work from home mom who spends five days out of my week dealing with four different therapist while trying to complete my hours for work. I designate Saturday as family day so all three of us can do things together and we focus on trying to play catch-up and getting things done around the house on sundays. I can't even find time for myself and yet I have a husband who is complaining that I am not making enough time for him. We agreed on trying to do quality time at least once a month were I would set work aside (getting up early the next day to make up the hours) and just spend time with him. That isn't enough. I spend the weekend mornings in bed with him before our son gets up (still not enough for him). I have no idea what to do. I am spread so thin and he wants more and is not happy. It is getting to the point that I just don't even care anymore. Please help...

How much does your husband do to help you with the home and your (I am using it in plural form) child?

Find some time when you and your husband can sit down and talk. You might want to write out your weekly or monthly schedule and include everything from eating to doing your hours for work. Show him here your time goes. Explain to him that you are not a robot and need help. By him helping around the house and being a daddy and partner, it will free up some of your time and make you more open to being affectionate and intimate with him. Being with him should not feel like you are raising another child or like a chore added to your already long list.

I would suggest counseling, but would you have time? Would he be willing? Have you talked any of the therapists about support groups?

Do you have any time to yourself to unwind and want to remember you are a woman as well as a mother?

Even if your son wasn't needing extra care, a child changes a relationship and the amount of time you have together. It is a fact of life. Is there someone other than yourself who could talk with him about his expectations and how far from reality they are right now?

You of course need a "self or night with friends once or twice a month where he keeps child and you get a chance to get out and away.

Then both of you need at least once a month a date night, get a sitter and the two of you go out, every once in a while make it a over night even local. Or sitter away from the house and have the house to yourself.

Couples who do not do a date night at least once a month often find trouble since they forget about dating and relationship with each other.