lmm96
Apr 20, 2012, 03:33 PM
I dated my ex John for a year and a half. We broke up because we moved in together way too soon into our relationship and it eventually wore down on us being around each other 24/7. We had a lot of petty arguments. My friends also started filling my head with ideas such as the fact that I'm a 21 year old in college and I need to go out and party and meet new guys instead of being tied down. I was stupid and took their advice.
So I broke up with my ex and pretty soon after started having a fling with a new guy, Mike. I saw Mike out at a party when I was still with my ex John. I never formally met Mike but he knew John and I were dating so a few days after the party he sent me a Facebook message. I left my FB logged on one day and John saw where Mike and I had been messaging. It was all innocent messages but John asked me if I would please stop talking to Mike, and I did. Well when John and I broke up I saw Mike again and that's when we started having a fling for about 2 months.
I ended stuff with Mike last week because I couldn't stop thinking about John. I just started talking to John again and we hung out last night. I know I want him back, I'm really in love with him and we had a great relationship except for moving in too quickly. I asked John when we first started talking again if he had a new girlfriend and he said no, that he had a fling with a girl for a few weeks but it was nothing. I also told him I had a fling with a guy for a while too but I didn't tell him it was Mike. We were both OK with the fact that we had seen other people.
So after that long explanation, my question is: do you think John will be furious to find out it was Mike who I had a fling with? It's not like they are good friends or anything. But I know John did feel betrayed back when we were dating that I had been Facebook messaging with Mike. Do you think I should tell him it was Mike or just leave it alone? Will he eventually get over it or will it put a strain on the relationship forever?
THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR INPUT.
So I broke up with my ex and pretty soon after started having a fling with a new guy, Mike. I saw Mike out at a party when I was still with my ex John. I never formally met Mike but he knew John and I were dating so a few days after the party he sent me a Facebook message. I left my FB logged on one day and John saw where Mike and I had been messaging. It was all innocent messages but John asked me if I would please stop talking to Mike, and I did. Well when John and I broke up I saw Mike again and that's when we started having a fling for about 2 months.
I ended stuff with Mike last week because I couldn't stop thinking about John. I just started talking to John again and we hung out last night. I know I want him back, I'm really in love with him and we had a great relationship except for moving in too quickly. I asked John when we first started talking again if he had a new girlfriend and he said no, that he had a fling with a girl for a few weeks but it was nothing. I also told him I had a fling with a guy for a while too but I didn't tell him it was Mike. We were both OK with the fact that we had seen other people.
So after that long explanation, my question is: do you think John will be furious to find out it was Mike who I had a fling with? It's not like they are good friends or anything. But I know John did feel betrayed back when we were dating that I had been Facebook messaging with Mike. Do you think I should tell him it was Mike or just leave it alone? Will he eventually get over it or will it put a strain on the relationship forever?
THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR INPUT.