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alybally
Apr 19, 2012, 07:50 PM
Okay, so my best friend and my boyfriend are like, SUPER close. My boyfriend and I have been BEST friends since August. We JUST got together like, 3 days ago. But I'm already starting to worry my best friend and him are closer than we are. We were at the mall (before we got together) and he kept grabbing her arm and pulling her away. Also, we went in to a show store and my best friend was trying on shoes, and I was just looking around. She could not get the shoe on, and so she was about to take them off when my boyfriend walks up to her, grabs her leg and puts her leg over his lap, puts the shoe on her foot and says to her, "no, i'm not letting you give up. I wanna see you in those shoes!" That's ONE OF the MANY times I didn't know what to do, so I walked away from them.

Only my best friend noticed I was gone and asked my boyfriend "Hey, wheres <insert name here>?" And he said "I don't know". I was so upset, I ran away because I felt like crying. Then he kept ignoring me and they kept walking away AND he offered to buy HER a necklace as well. So I am so confused. I don't know what to do AT ALL. I'm worried that if I tell him, he might say stuff like, "we just got together and you're already freaking out?" or he would lie. And I'm worried about talking to my best friend because she says "were NOT CLOSE AT ALL". I don't think they realize, they're VERY close. HELP ME..

annalester23
Apr 20, 2012, 08:28 AM
I think maybe you shld concentrate on your freindship with the best friend... he sounds very flirty and I wld suggest that after 3days maybe you shld move on before you get hurt... OR talk to your friend if she's a true friend she will back off and let your relationship work, as your worry is with the boyfreind and not with her, she will stand by you and respect your feelings x

talaniman
Apr 20, 2012, 08:42 AM
I think you over reacted by first walking away, and second by thinking the worst without talking first. That's a lot of assuming after being with some one just 3 days, and I bet you never worried while you were just friends.

How old are you all?

sheepTriumph
Apr 20, 2012, 10:50 PM
I think that he likes her. Sorry, angel.
What you should do is ask him out of the blue what he thinks of her. That may spill some stuff for you. But what it sounds like is that your friends are BOTH attracted to each other and you just didn't find the right guy. Your two friends had a Cinderella moment without you and you need to understand that there is someone for everyone but this guy isn't YOUR someone although he may be your friend's.

rela21712
Apr 20, 2012, 11:00 PM
I had an experience JUST like this so here is what I did.
Although I found it EXTREMELY hard and nearly impossible to do, I broke up with him and blamed it on not wanting to lose our friendship. But really it was just a test to see if my friends would go out and have a blossoming romance. I planned to get back with him in the future though..
My two friends ended up together and still are. They are an AMAZING couple and I'm glad I didn't stand in the way of that. If I hadn't stepped out of the way and realize how selfless and jealous I was, then my best friends would have never found love. I met someone too though. I thought I would never like anyone else and that no other boy would compare until someone new walked in. I suggest that you to what I did. And even if they do end up together remember that having a boyfriend isn't all that important.
It also sounds like he likes you best friend.. Like A lot. Well good luck and Like I said, just try it and see what happens :)