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Forever577322
Apr 19, 2012, 05:49 PM
Sooo... I have been dating my current boyfriend for 3 months and he is wonderful and all. He treats me amazingly and I think I like him but my last ex that I dated for 2 month still has my heart.. Even though he didn't treat me as well as my current boyfriend.. There was just something more there.. I was always more interested in him more and waaaay more atracted.. I find myself bored and unable to feel extreme feelings for my current boyfriend and very unatracted. Your probably thinking why did I stay with him then right? Well I stayed with him because I thought through time Id get over my ex and be able to gain feelings for my ex since he treated me really good but I was wrong and Im still madly in love with my ex.. The reason me and my ex broke up was because we barely saw each other and had a different friend group.. and now Im stuck in a relationship I don't even want to be in but I don't want to break up with him because I don't want to hurt him but want me ex back what should I do.

DoulaLC
Apr 19, 2012, 05:55 PM
You do the right thing and break up with the current boyfriend.

Do not string him along any longer if your heart isn't in it. Simply tell him that he is a great guy but you have come to realize that you aren't over your ex yet and that it's only fair to break it off.

You'll hurt him more by dragging it on. It's only been 3 months, better to end it now.

Then you either contact your ex, and see if there is anything there, or you be on your own for awhile until you can be sure that your heart is completely free to be with someone else.

Think of it this way... would you want a guy you liked to stay with you when he knew he really wanted to be with someone else?

Forever577322
Apr 19, 2012, 06:03 PM
You do the right thing and break up with the current boyfriend.

Do not string him along any longer if your heart isn't in it. Simply tell him that he is a great guy but you have come to realize that you aren't over your ex yet and that it's only fair to break it off.

You'll hurt him more by dragging it on. It's only been 3 months, better to end it now.

Then you either contact your ex, and see if there is anything there, or you be on your own for awhile until you can be sure that your heart is completely free to be with someone else.

Think of it this way.....would you want a guy you liked to stay with you when he knew he really wanted to be with someone else?

I know I should have broke up with him in the first 2 weeks where I realized I wouldn't be able to get over him easily.. It would have been easier... But I was selfish and stayed with him so I wouldn't be lonely... but not only that but he has so many bad experiences with dating in his life he acturally thought that something was wrong with him.. I felt bad for him and just wanted him to be happy... Im stupid..

DoulaLC
Apr 19, 2012, 06:10 PM
You're not stupid, you just made a mistake so now you fix it and learn from it.

Take care of it in the next two days. Putting if off will only make it worse for both of you.

Yes, he may feel bad at first, but he will then have the chance to meet someone who actually wants to be with just him. That can't happen if you keep your feelings to yourself.

Puppyluv2000
Oct 2, 2012, 07:21 PM
Well I dump my ex I still think about him all the time but he always help his friend everyday and didn't even talk to me so I had enough so I broke apart then I met this guys who treats me like a queen but loves my for who I am I'm not as skinny as I want to me the point is that does your ex still want u?? don't mind breaking a couple hearts well mind and don't be careless. Maybe your current boyfriend is a little shy of what you want just do want you think is right and there's a person out there for everyone