I'm gay and I've been living with my straight best friend for 3 years now, and we do everything together. We go to dinner, to see movies and we have been on 5 overseas trips together and stay in the same hotel rooms. When we are at home I massage his back and legs and feet almost every day and I sometime massage his scalp. I do his washing and ironing and cook him dinner and he doesn't take advantage of me because he buys me dinner and expensive gifts. He's had a couple of girlfriends but nothing serious. Is it possible he is gay and doesn't realise it? He knows I'm gay and I'm not in love with him I just find it odd that a straight guy would let me do all that stuff to him.

Coming from a straight guy, I would not let another guy massage me. If he lets you massage him, I think he might have some tendencies.

I think he is gay because as mention above I don't know of any straight guy who would allow you to do the things you do. Sounds like the two of you are a little more than roomates/friends but neither one of you have address this issue.

Maybe he is getting too comfortable with this setup the two,of you have. You cook, cater to his needs, travel together, he gives you gifts, etc. Youcan expressed your feelings but expect it to go either way. Have youbeen throwing him hints and have he been giving you any.

Hmmm... I think he might be. I'm a straight guy and I don't think I would ever go to an actual restaurant with just me and 1 guy friend. I would go to the movies with a guy friend if it's just us two. I would stay in a hotel room if it was just us two, but I don't know about taking a trip if it's just us together. Now the cooking dinner is cool I guess since you guys are roommates, but the washing and ironing is a bit too much for me unless he lost a bet. But yeah I agree with OneLife, the massage thing is just not going to happen lol, NEVER.

He either has gay tendencies or he's straight, but rather eccentric.

At the spa men are often the one who gives massages, proper non sexual ones. Are you touching him sexually or having sex ?

I'm gay and I've been living with my straight best friend for 3 years now, and we do everything together

You have been living with a guy for 3 years and don't know whether he is gay or not??

>Shakes head in disbelief<... Just ask him!