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andaman
Apr 12, 2012, 12:45 AM
Hi,
Not to make the question long and boring,I just want to say that my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me because she fell out of love with me,and loves me more in a non romantic way now.
Initially she was acting distant and confused what she was feeling,so I gave her some space to figure out,and then she came up with the break up.Im totally shocked because she loved me and I love her too so much,I don't know how her feelings changed,
Firstly I think maybe its because of the distance or because of that she didn't see a future with me,I don't know what,
She said she wants to be in my life still as my best friend,and she will miss me if I go away,but she said she understands how much she's hurting me,and that she's so hurt herself too because she doesn't know why her feelings changed,
She was all crying and heartbroken too,

Should I stay friends with her?I don't know why in my heart somewhere I feel she might want me back one day,but for now I'm too hurt to even think about that,

Homegirl 50
Apr 12, 2012, 03:10 AM
Give her the break without the friendship. It will be too hard for both of you. Sometimes these things happen and you don't understand why, she doesn't even understand why.
You two need total space so you both can heal.

andaman
Apr 12, 2012, 03:26 AM
Yeah maybe you are right lets see how things go in future,
Maybe she might want to come back or not but since we are both hurt it's best maybe to heal first,
I feel like asking her how she's doing is she handling it OK should I or or just leave her?bcs no matter what she's my best friend too,but is it soon for me to be nice to her,because she's the one who hurt me in the first place?

Homegirl 50
Apr 12, 2012, 03:29 AM
Just go NC that means no contact at all. You need time to heal and she needs time too.
Take care of you. Stay away from her.

andaman
Apr 12, 2012, 03:39 AM
That's going to be hard,but I think for self respect I'm going to do that,even though I still feel we might get back together in the near future,

Homegirl 50
Apr 12, 2012, 03:44 AM
Well, we are here when and if you need to vent. Give yourself time to heal. Don't sit around waiting for her to come back. Go on with your life.
I wish you well

andaman
Apr 12, 2012, 11:52 AM
Well she texted me asking me how I'm doing couple of times,and she's genuinely concerned about me,

Homegirl 50
Apr 12, 2012, 12:28 PM
well she texted me asking me how I'm doing couple of times,and she's genuinely concerned bout me,
I'm sure she is, but you must move on. Give yourself time to heal

andaman
Apr 13, 2012, 09:45 AM
Well we spoke and discussed to give each other space and contact limited amount of times, and then see from some months from now where we stand.
I don't want to pressurize her,I want to be her friend and be there for her too,because she's so confused and alone right now,
I can feel that she loves me,but I think because of the distance and future uncertainty she doesn't want to commit as of now,

What should I do now?