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Flower93
Apr 8, 2012, 09:03 PM
I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 23 I trust him but since he works Monday through Friday he chooses to go to clubs and house partys on the weekend instead of hangin out with me. I'm currently living with him and I get upset that he doesn't make time for me. He says that the weekdays are for me and weekends for his friends it's really hurting me I do don't know what to do. Should in let him be free or leave him. Because I tried talking to him already and he says he's not going to change. Please help.

Kerrysbaby
Apr 9, 2012, 07:11 AM
My boyfriend used to do the same. I'm also 19, an he's 22. I told him how it hurt my feelings that he was choosing others over me. But it was every other weekend Because we get his son. But the best thing for you to do is tell him how you feel. He can still go out just bring you along. If he doesn't meet your needs then drop him. He doesn't really care if he can't spend his free time with you. I wish you luck.

Flower93
Apr 9, 2012, 09:07 AM
Thank you for your answer. Last night I explain to him my feelings but he said the same thing, that he wants to live life and enjoy it with his fiends and that's the part that hurts that he chooses then and not me. Should I do the same because I don't want to loose him :( he nice and sweet but when it comes to the weekends he's someone else.

Kerrysbaby
Apr 10, 2012, 11:44 AM
If I were you I'd go do my own thing too. If he gets mad o well. He does it, so why can't you. Your still young enjoy it while you can.

jaybob124
Apr 10, 2012, 01:43 PM
I would do that with my ex too. Was because I like to go out and drink and smoke weed with friends. My ex didn't smoke or drink so I felt like a couldn't fully let loose when I was with her. Ask him to bring you along next time and try to be fun and don't give him a hard time if he isn't being reasonable with his partying.

talaniman
Apr 15, 2012, 10:52 AM
Make your own plans and enjoy yourself.

Fr_Chuck
Apr 15, 2012, 12:16 PM
He is not taking you living together serious and you are just his friend at home with benefits. You would or see him more if you were actually dating him.

Why does he not take you out with him for the parties ? I would leave him and find someone that has grown up and is no longer acting like they are in high school