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Shelly72
Apr 8, 2012, 07:08 PM
I went through a divorce from a man that is addicted to pills, verbally abusive to me badly to the point that it was stealing my health. I had to move to Florida in w/ my mom from SC because I have nothing but the clothes on my back. My mom will not allow my 18 yr old daughter to come too, so she is stuck w/ her dad. I want her here with me so badly, she has had to move out away from him in w/ some friends of ours but she should be w/ me. My hands are tied... I only make 8.50 hour and after health ins. life ins. taxes, food, meds, and gas my pay check is gone. I went to check out section 8 and even they say that they will take 30% of my pay for rent and this does not include utilities, in which the community center says they will pay $35 towards it. My daughter is becoming really down and I am worried scared, feel like I have let her down, misfit mom. I don't know what else to do. Someone please tell me what to do!!

JudyKayTee
Apr 9, 2012, 06:54 AM
You left your daughter with an addicted, verbally abusive man?

Why won't your mother allow your daughter to live with her?

I think there's more to this story than you have posted.

At any rate - instead of listening to rumor go to the Section 8 office and ask for advice. Find out what the rules are, how many people are on the waiting list.

Here comes the harsh part - you did let your daughter down. You left her, alone, with a dangerous man.

talaniman
Apr 10, 2012, 04:52 PM
Your daughter is 18, and can get her own resources and likely best found at a shelter, where she can get help. You have to do what you can to get your own help, so see what human resources or what ever the agency you have in your location, can provide.

Sorry for your situation, but wish you and your family much luck.

Kristip11
Apr 22, 2012, 09:04 AM
See about getting your daughter a job near you, and then move in together. There's ways to survive. I live on 7.25 an hour. It's just hard. Keep your head up and try to do anything possible. She's 18, if her working is the only option then use it.

Fr_Chuck
Apr 22, 2012, 09:26 AM
So the daughter moves to a women's shelter in your area, So you move to a shelter and take daughter with you.

The last thing you would do is leave your 18 year old in a house you could not live in.

DoulaLC
Apr 22, 2012, 09:38 AM
Scrape the money together and get your daughter a bus ticket to Florida asap.

Locate a shelter, inexpensive motel, or a studio or one bedroom apartment in your area. Perhaps with the thought of you moving to a shelter, your mother will change her mind about your daughter living there. (I too, have to wonder why she doesn't want her there)

Any chance of your daughter getting a job where you are working? That might be something to look into as well.