Hey guys,

Let me make my story short.

I met this girl in 2010, we were close friends. I kind of had feelings for her she was confused(that what she told me). Later one fine day she confess that she made out with some random guy. I was kind of heart broken.

Had a small fight but we were back together as same old friends and she was still "confused" about her feelings for me. One fine day we made out, and after a week we had a big fight. I had sent her a long abusive message and there was no contact after that.

It was hard for me I was not getting over her. I tried lot of waysto get over her. But even then I used to miss her a lot. I broke NC twice called her and spoke to her like loser. She was not ready to patch up.

After 1 year she calls me back asked if we could hang out. I met her and she told me she has a boyfriend now, but will break up soon as its not working. Now we hang out a lot. When I asked her about her "confused" feelings she told it was just a physical attraction she had towards me.

Yesterday night after I dropped her home, she had left her mobile in my car. I had her mobile with me the whole night and was curious to read the message(its not rite I know) and I was shocked to see that she was making out with her boyfriend every other night expect for last night because I had her mobile. She used call him after I dropped her home. She also message other random guys asking them to stay over and naughty naughty messages.

Now I'm totally f*****, now I think I can move on. But before that should I let her go like that. Shall I play? Because I wasted my entire one year thinking of her, depression , stopped going to gym was at home all the time feeling low and depressed.. Should I just let her go?

Now I'm half happy because she is not a sweet and good girl which I was thinking and I can just move on and the other half I'm angry and sad because I had feeling for a sl**. Feels really bad.

My question

1: will I get over soon now(coz rite now I'm kind of OK and strong don't know when I'll be depressed)? If any one has past experience please share.
2: should I be the same old nice guy and use her like she is using me now?

You like or are attracted to this girl. She did not want to be more than friends. Let it go and move on with your life. No matter how much you think you like her - you need to go out with other girls and get on with your life. I would say, if you see her somewhere say hi and move on. The right girl is not going to string you along and tell you she is "confused". She is going to be honest with you and want to get to know you. You will meet another girl that you will fall in love with - and she will want more than friendship with you. This one - let it go and get out there and socialize. Things will work out for you. As time goes on, you will see that this girl was not right for you.

Revenge is never a good option, it will come back to bite you in the butt.
Simply let it go and continue the no contact.
She professed to having a boyfriend and still sought you out, not for some need to be with you, but more likely because she knew she could use you in some way.
She didn't waste a year of your life, that was your choice.
Of course you are angry and hurt, but to take revenge will serve no purpose for her or you.
Drop it and get on with your life.

You will get over it soon and probably become somewhat of a misogynist in the process. It's normal. About taking revenge, it's personal. As for revenge, it is very personal. When it's driven by anger it won't make you feel better, but some people just enjoy it.

I'd say you better not take chances with complex plots, just make sure she knows what a slut you think she is and go your way, now wiser and stronger.

Yes. Yes. Yes. I know you don't want to here that but I was on the same boat a while ago. Do not let someone do that to you. You will find someone who likes you for you. And you will like them for them and I promise you when you find that person your heart will feel 20x better.