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boo1056
Mar 26, 2012, 04:18 PM
When I masturbate I feel like I have an orgasm but nothing comes out, but when my boyfriend does it to me I have lots of orgasms and lots of liquid actually comes out like crazy. Why does this happen to me. I tell my boyfriend that I can't make myself come and he says that's weird.I feel like I don't know my body. I don't know how to come by myself.Is this even normal?

Alty
Mar 26, 2012, 04:25 PM
It's very normal.

It sounds like your boyfriend knows your body better than you do. But that's not all it takes to orgasm. For women most of sexual stimulation is in our brains. If we can't relax, let our mind go, let our bodies go, then orgasm won't happen.

Since you've never been able to have an orgasm by yourself, and you're obviously worried about it, I'd say that right now you're your own worst enemy.

You have to learn to relax and let it happen, instead of expecting it to happen.

Oh wait. I just re-read your post. What do you mean when you say "when i masturbate i feel like i have an orgasm but nothing comes out"? Most women do not "squirt" when they orgasm. And even those that do, don't with every single orgasm.

So it sounds like you are achieving orgasm while you masturbate, you just don't understand that squirting isn't the norm for most women, and it's not something that happens every time even for those women that do squirt.

boo1056
Mar 26, 2012, 06:31 PM
Well it seems weird to me because when my boyfriend does to me I squirt like crazy but when I masturbate nothing happen nothing comes out and that seems very weird.I want to be able to masturbate myself and actually squirt but I don't only with him. It makes me feel less when I know that he can make me come and squirt but I can't to myself. I relax when I do it but nothing happens. I remember the first orgasm I had was when he did it to me and then later on I tried myself and I did squirt bit then later on when I tried again nothing happened.

hunglo
Apr 10, 2012, 08:41 AM
Have you had orgasms with anyone else other than your boyfriend and just asking how old where you when you first experience your first orgasm?