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I was with my ex for 4 years months away from marriage. My ex left me for his ex girlfriend who he dated 6 years prior. He didn't waste anytime starting the relationship. In my opinion I'm a way better catch... no kids, good job, smart, athletic, Suzy homemaker, and all!

He left me 5 month from our wedding day! I'm my opinion we loved each other very much and I cared so much for him... and he jumped into a relationship with his ex girlfriend the Day he broke my heart! They are both very selfish people! I was extremely nice to my ex during the breakup... I held HIM as he cried over this tough decision he made (which he made from texting his ex for 4 days)! I simply walked away from this relationship as he jumped into the a relationship with the women of his lust filled dreams... happy as a clam!

Well... he used to be happy as a clam around me! Now all he does around me is avoid eye contact and me completely and if he has to be civil... since we work together... I get a sad Hi accompanied my a sad/pathetic smile. Anyway... back to my original question! It has taken me 3 months to finally realize what a truly bad person he is! All I want to do is tell him exactly what I feel about him! Honestly how can someone do what he did to someone they have told they loved for 4 years?

My question is should I call my ex and let him know exactly how I feel? Should I try and win my ex back because I love him or just let him go and find a way better man?

Thanks!

Why on earth would you want this man back in your life?! Move on and find someone who will appreciate the fact that you are a great catch!

A-Should I try and win my ex back because I love him or,


B- just let him go and find a way better man?

This is a no brainer, B- just let him go and find a way better man?

What a jerk! It's good you realized how bad and selfish a person he is. But dear, what will you get by telling him how you feel about it? It'll really look childish, and to some extend can be taken as you are not over him yet.

Take whatever happened as an important lesson in your life and next time invest your love and time in a man who has some backbone.

Oh and the next time you face this person, say all those stuff you wanted to say in your mind, while keeping a straight face.

Find a man who has enough brains to know that you are a good catch!! And hurray! You got rid of an idiot who didn't appreciate you. Move on my girl! And get what you really deserve. A great man!!

My question is should I call my ex and let him know exactly how I feel?
No. Don't do that.

He knows how you feel. Now, be a class act and a real lady. If you have to interact with him, keep it work oriented with no emotion or discussion about your former relationship.

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Hey there, I received a text from him late one night... 'how are you doing?' I hadn't spoken to him in 2 weeks and a month before that! Anyway I didn't get the message until the next day... I waited to reply until the afternoon, because I didn't want to deal with a drunk or hungover ex. His reply both made me happy and angry! He said something that gave me mixed signals... he apologized for the late night text and said he was walking home "cold and lonely" and that it won't happen again followed by a ;) And then he hoped everything was going well for me :).

This bothers me because... he has a girlfriend that he left me for and he can't even be faithful to her... that made me angry! I hear from people that he is lost right now... still doesn't know what he wants. I love my ex and would love to be with him... as crazy as that sounds! But the texts and how he acts around me make me and my friends feel he is just "planting his seed"!

I know my ex will try and come back to me when the inevitable happens in this relationship... all his friends and family believe it will blowup in his face! I don't want him to string me along... but I have a feeling he is setting me up as a backup plan. He's actually told me that if the relationship didn't work he would come find me. I want to keep in touch with him but I don't want to get stuck in this position.

Should I ignore him if he contacts me again? Initiate contact? Or block him completely? Any thought?

Ignore him. Block him completely.

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Cut all contact with him off. ALL OF IT, and ignore is drunken texts and calls and have NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM!!!

Ignore him forever.

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My four year relationship just ended 3 months ago! What is the best way to mend a broken heart and get over an ex?

Build a life that you enjoy without him. Fill your life with family, friends, and activities that makes you happy. This is how you heal, and move on.