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chloe12
Mar 13, 2012, 09:34 PM
All threads merged into ONE.


I am in year 7 in school and Am 12 years old
I have a best friend called shannon And a mate called luke.

NOVEMBER
Shannon likes luke so asks him out he says yes and pretty soon every one knows. Me and luke seem to think that since I'm her best mate and he's her boyfriend. We should get to know each other. So we do we also discovered that I do one to one singing lessons at the same place where he does one to one guitar lessons. We also find out that there is. Going to be a gig on in march so we decide to take part as a duet and the song we chooses is a love song by he is we called I wouldn't mind because it has a good bass and vocals. Shannon splits up with him 3 times but they end up getting back together. I realize I have feelings for him but that nothing. Can happen since he's going out with shannon.every time he touched me I had butterflies. For hours on end but I did stay strong

DECEMBER
It is announced that the year 7s are having a christmas party everyone goes all dressed up luke does some breakdancing and popping. Suddenly the next day there not. Together no one noes why not even luke so he comes for me for help I tell him that I would tell him why she broke up with him but I just didn't know.

JANUARY
My feelings for luke were still there but I still didn't do anything about it because of him and Shannon being together before. In english ait the time we sat quite far apart from each other but I still heard him saying to julia that he liked me well that was what I hoped but I only heard my name being mentioned. I asked julia why they were talking about me and she said that someone liked me and luke also knows but she wasn't allowed to tell me. I assumed it was luke. The next day every one new that I knew luke like me except from luke himself. In a french lesson a girl called olivia turned around to say ooooooooo u like chloe he told her to shush but she said to him luke she knows u like her he cringed from then on he passed me notes in all lessons we were next to each other which a lot saying that I was one in a million he hot shy every time he saw me in person etc.

February
The notes continue

MARCH
He asks me out all the time and I say no. Shannon asks him out all. The time he says no. Shannon admits to me she likes him.he asks me out And I say YES I'm so happy he's so happy but Shannon isn't

Yesterday (still march)
I ask shannon to find out how long he has like me she texts. Back saying I already know

He's liked you when we were going out he would stare and smile st you in lessons plus one of his mates told me he liked you at the christmas party that's why I broke up with him she says she over him but I don't think she is

indya
Mar 13, 2012, 09:57 PM
If he is 'obsessed' with you it's a bad thing! And what he did to shannon is cheating. How can you be sure that he won't cheat on you? More than he being your friend's ex, the fact that he seems to have an unhealthy obsession for you, and cheated on your friend and lied to her, are the reason's you should leave him.

chloe12
Mar 19, 2012, 12:41 PM
I'm 12 And I'm currently going out with my boyfriend. We've been going out for a week now. He's my first real boyfriend. He really likes me so much in fact that that he split up with my best mate. What I want to know is shoukd I hug him yet, how, when.

Here is when were together sobyou know when its possabke
We are in almost in every lesson together. Somedays we even take the bus with his ex ( my bff) some guy from my primry, my other best friends, And someother guy who went to my primary. Then we all go our sepret ways And go home

JudyKayTee
Mar 19, 2012, 01:40 PM
Is your question should you hug him? That's your decision. At 12, I don't think it's wise.

You've known him for a week.

You very recently were involved with someone else. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/children/boyfriend-best-friends-ex-help-643383.html

chloe12
Mar 19, 2012, 09:27 PM
I've been going out for my boyfriend for a week now, I no its not long but everyone has to start somewhere, you know. And even though were 12 we really like each other. He llikes me so much in fact that he split up with my best mate who at the time was his girl friend.
In science at school where on the same table,
I sit neext to him in french
, behindd him in r.e.
Nowhere near him in english with my first teacher,
Same un geogrophy.
On a Tuesday
Next to him in french,
Same table in science,
Nowhere near him in maths
Other end of room in english.
Maths again
WEDNESDAY
Etc..
Some days we ride the bus with all our mates and when we get off we all go our sepreet ways

So my. Question is when should I hug him, how, when. What would u do

talaniman
Mar 19, 2012, 09:29 PM
Forget the hugs, you need to do a lot more talking before you get to hugs. Relax, and have some fun why don't you. Hey if you last a few months together then you will know when to hug. What's the hurry with the hugs?

And in case you haven't noticed, all your threads have been merged together for the whole story so no need to keep starting new questions about the same thing. They don't disappear, they just get moved into one.

chloe12
Mar 19, 2012, 09:40 PM
Soz diidnt no but I want t hug him because everyone's asking and he wudnt mind I no he won't and plus my best mare partyly. Broke up with him because he woukdnt hug her or anything because he fancied me

Wondergirl
Mar 19, 2012, 09:53 PM
Not yet.