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alexandradrozdz
Mar 12, 2012, 12:32 PM
Please please please please please please do not tell anyone else about this. Please do not. My younger
Sister is 15 and has come out as bisexual. My Mum is okay with it and accepts her as she is. But my sister has revealed that she has had oral sex with someone or as she put it "licked out" and I'm horrified. Were both British and it's illegal for anyone to have sex under the age of 16 in the UK. I promised her I wouldn't tell
Mum and Dad but it has really struck me as shocked and disgusted. And she doesn't even care, she even said to me "just because your a virgin" and called me weird and pathetic. I feel really hurt. And I am quite happy to be a virgin at the moment because I've decided I am going to wait until the time is right for me. But my sister thinks this is weird. She's just not who she used to be! Am I overreacting?

mmresd
Mar 12, 2012, 12:59 PM
Yes, you are overreacting. What your sister does is her business, if you don't understand it is OK, everyone thinks differently. Leave it alone.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 12, 2012, 07:14 PM
Yes none of your business, obviously she was wrong in trusting you, since you have now posted it on a international web site, that can be searched by Google. So now 1000s of people know

PokeXpert
Mar 14, 2012, 01:43 PM
Well, the other two I'm guessing aren't as sympathetic as some people, I do think it's none of your business, but it's your private life, and a lot of people probably have this problem, so, you could be anyone. I do think you should direct her to get some help, not saying that she's crazy, but to help her understand YOUR point of veiw. Good luck, when all is said and done.

alexandradrozdz
Mar 14, 2012, 04:59 PM
How can you tell me that I shouldn't be worried and that I should stay out of it? Every right to be worried as she's still rather young. I care about her a lot. See these are the kind of answers I get every time I ask questions, that I should accept things as they are, but I don't like the ideas of things such as these.

PokeXpert
Mar 14, 2012, 05:31 PM
Woah woah, I never said you shouldn't be worried, and to stay out of it, in fact, if I were in your place, I'd be doing everything I can to help. Get her some help, and bring it up sometimes, tell her what you're telling us, that you care, and you're her older sister. And any answers aren't against you, I feel like I get negative answers whenever I ask anything. Just keep trying, and push. :| Just get her some help, and make it that SHE knows that you care.

talaniman
Mar 14, 2012, 06:03 PM
You are over reacting, and whether you like what others do or not, you can't control their actions, only your own. Now you can make this a big conflict by revealing what your sister did, but she will likely, NOT like it at all that you betrayed her trust, nor will she stop what she is doing. So, lose, lose for you. Say your peace, and leave it alone. Or be upset with no good course of action.

Maybe you are to sensitive, you think, or over protective. That's understandable for people who care when younger siblings go against what you see as proper behavior. Very little we can do about it, and I understand its frustrating. Deal with your frustration, and don't visit it on your sister, or she will surely push back, and as you see, that hurts.