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valkman98
Mar 10, 2012, 02:23 PM
Hi, I haven't been here in a long time. I pop in to read a bit now and then. Got a problem, it's a trust thing. We had a problem a couple years back she was keeping things from me, made a bad mistake, broke my trust. We have worked out the issues but for me, I still can't get that last bit of trust back.

I know things are fine, we do talk more now. I am very open, hide nothing in my life from her, she ask I talk. She is not like that and is a private person which keeps me from giving the 100%. I hate the way I feel, we have talked and she says I am it, we are good, no worries at all. Want to be with me forever and the like.

Why can't I let go, and move past this thing? It is a problem I have with a lot of things that have hurt me, not just relationships. I guess I am broken.LOL. I just need some advice on how to work on me, you guys here have good hearts and have a clue, so here is were I am. :-)

I know she needs "her " time and space but I still worry some. All the signs say she isn't doing anything and does truly love me. Just wish I could feel the same. Thanks Have a great weekend.

talaniman
Mar 10, 2012, 03:21 PM
Hi guy, welcome back.

I think your issue is not a problem but leftover feelings from the past, resurfacing again, for whatever reason because you haven't completely let go of it, or something has triggered it in your mind. LOL, even a girls night out, or being late can trigger old memories, and given past problems, and different communication styles, a lingering doubt, or feeling can be bigger than what it need be.

Patience my friend, as you cope with your own feelings and not act on them without solid facts. Fear without facts is something to NOT act on, just dealt with in your own mind. Or else you worry yourself for nothing. I think you have come a long way, and maybe have a bit further to go.

Or maybe and likely, you are dealing with communications problems and not getting enough reassurance from your FEARS. Nothing you wrote has said you have any facts have those fears grow within you though, so maybe a recent event is your trigger to the past.

Explore it, and resolve it, before you express it.

valkman98
Mar 11, 2012, 06:54 PM
Thanks! I think you may be right. No facts of any problems and you hit it right on the money about things that trigger my feelings. I got some mork work to do. This weekend was great, I do think my feelings are just some scares messing with me. That's why I came here, good advice!! Thanks again.