It's just odd to me that my husband's employee's wife befriended him on FB - then started talking to him. 1. My husband didn't know her husband until we were transferred here. 2. Her husband works for my husband. 3. Her husband works in the field, mine in the office - their paths rarely cross except by phone - and the wives (me included) don't go to the office - we never have any reason to need to go there. 4. She has not sent a friend request to me - even though she knows that her husband's boss (my husband) is married. In fact she sent us "Mr. & Mrs Blah Blah" an invitation to their vow renewal in April.

I'm not normally a jealous person, so why is it bugging me so that this woman has sent a friend request to my husband and is talking to him on FB? Something about the whole thing strikes me as 'off colored',even though the actual conversations are innocent. Am I being weird or isn't it inappropriate for her to be chatting up her husband's boss (and a married man) on Facebook when she clearly isn't interested in a friendship with his wife?

It is inappropriate for your husband both professionally, and personally, to have an employee's wife as a Facebook friend.

Had she requested him, and you, it would still be inappropriate. He is her husband's boss.

My guess is a woman that would be that brazen to chat up somebody elses' husband, let alone her husband's boss, likely has a track record.

You could do a few things. First, tell your husband that you are uncomfortable with her as a 'friend', and although nothing is going on, it makes you uncomfortable, and he should stick to friends and family on his Facebook, not wives of subordinates' husbands.

You could also add her yourself, although I doubt that would make her uncomfortable enough to add you.

Either way, no employee's, or employee's wives particularly, should be on a social networking site, unless they ARE friends or family.

Clearly she is neither.

You are a wife, so is she talk to your husband and TALK to her. I think she will get the message.