layme24
Mar 9, 2012, 12:08 AM
Me and my girlfriend, now ex-girlfriend, had been dating since March 7, 2009 - our relationship was great, amazing to say the least. She left for college this year about an hour and a half away, we saw each other occasionally, much less than when we both went to the same high school. However, our relationship was still strong at first. Then we had a few speed bumps along the way. Until recently, she had been feeling very, very, pressured / stressed (she is a design / architecture major) and felt very bad she couldn't commit any time to the relationship. Valentines day we were still together, than a week later she asked for a break, a time to figure things out. After a week she decided she really needed to get through the next two months, as she really needed to get into the school of design next year. I understood, but it hurt a lot to hear she wanted to end things.
At first, she insisted she really wanted things to work out and then over time she became very 'unresponsive', she wasn't the same person I knew. Eventually, after a many long talks and screw ups, we had a big talk recently. She told me that there were just so many things she has been doubting lately, her friends, family, major, etc. Then went on to say she felt like we grew apart and that she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore.
She has said she 'wants' things to work out and come summer time, when we will be living in the same town, this is our chance to try and work things back out, try to get things back to the way they were. I really do want things to work out, we were a great couple and school just really screwed things up, I mean we talked about our 'future' multiple times because it was that good of a relationship. I just don't know how to handle this, she has said we've felt like just friends lately and I can see where she is coming from on that, I just don't know how to go about this - she has been the first girl I've really loved and spent 3 1/2 years with her. Any advice / feedback?
At first, she insisted she really wanted things to work out and then over time she became very 'unresponsive', she wasn't the same person I knew. Eventually, after a many long talks and screw ups, we had a big talk recently. She told me that there were just so many things she has been doubting lately, her friends, family, major, etc. Then went on to say she felt like we grew apart and that she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore.
She has said she 'wants' things to work out and come summer time, when we will be living in the same town, this is our chance to try and work things back out, try to get things back to the way they were. I really do want things to work out, we were a great couple and school just really screwed things up, I mean we talked about our 'future' multiple times because it was that good of a relationship. I just don't know how to handle this, she has said we've felt like just friends lately and I can see where she is coming from on that, I just don't know how to go about this - she has been the first girl I've really loved and spent 3 1/2 years with her. Any advice / feedback?