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RachelOs
Mar 7, 2012, 12:36 PM
I am 22 years old and I live in MO. I am having my first child in July! I rent a home with my fiancé, pay my bills, go to school, and work a full time job. Everything was going great until I overheard a conversation at a famliy dinner between my aunts, saying the second I look " stoned " after my daughter is born, they are going to call cps and try and get coustody of her! I was never a partier, and I smoked cannabis once in a while, but never have I smoked since being pregnant, and I don't plan on smoking after she's born. I don't have time with work, school, and a new baby, to worry about someone in my famliy that assumes I am an unfit mother. They constanlly joke about when I'm going to loose my daughter, as well as call my daughter " their baby " . It's Driving me nuts! I don't find it funny or cute to joke about someone's child being taken, or to slander a new mother because they want her baby. They seem to think they are going to be at my house 24/7 after she's born to make sure I'm " taking care of her the right way". They criticize me for my decision to breastfeed, saying I won't follow through with it and should just do formula, I think they just want to be able to make her a bottle. I could go on and on, just yesterday one of my aunts said she would be over to change her out of the " hippy" cloths I dress her in. How can I put a stop to a of this? They seem to think calling cps will get them some kind of coustody or something, what in the world! Any advice would be awesome, thank you!

cdad
Mar 7, 2012, 03:39 PM
Have you spoken to them yet about this behavior? They should be working on creating a environment for you and the child that is exceptional not caustic. If they continue then take them to court for a restraining order.

JudyKayTee
Mar 7, 2012, 03:52 PM
I wouldn't allow any of them near my child and I also wouldn't be sitting down with dinner or anything else with them. I don't think you have to be nasty. Tell them their comments upset you and so you aren't going to listen any more.

When the baby is born don't allow them in the house.

I don't know where you are but smoking "once in a while" CAN get you reported to CPS, legitimately. I'm not judging you or the Law but how do they know you smoked?