View Full Version : How old would you say is the right age to have a baby if I'm 14, and desperate?
bettyblairr
Mar 1, 2012, 08:40 AM
How old would you say is the right age to have a baby if I'm 14, and desperate? :P
mogrann
Mar 1, 2012, 08:48 AM
When you are able to financially support a child with no government help. You really don't receive enough on welfare to give your child a good life. Do you have emotional support as well? I would suggest you finish school, go to college, and enjoy your teen years. You have time when you are all done that to decide if if it is the right time to have a child.
JudyKayTee
Mar 1, 2012, 09:07 AM
Here you are in no hurry to have a baby so I'm not sure if this is just a homework question or not. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-law/how-old-do-have-move-out-parents-house-247431.html
The "right" age is when you can emotionally, financially, physically sustain a child - that age might be 20 or 30 or even 40.
Being a single mother is difficult so I recommend having a committed partner.
ScottGem
Mar 1, 2012, 09:51 AM
Mod note: The post that Judy linked to has been removed since it was posted to a 4 year old thread. However, I'm quoting the post below:
I'm 14 years old and in your exact position, I'm soon turning fifteen, and want my own place. I can cook and clean and am well with children (not that i have any or wanting them:P) I think you should wait until you turn 16, and I can't believe that I'm telling someone in my situation to wait, but it'll be for the best. I've realised that the jobs you can get at 15/16 are very limited and it wouldn't bring you enough money to pay for the flat, food and all of your bills unless of course your moving in to somewhere with someone else. If you are thinking of moving in with someone be aware of what people are capable of. You might think you know someone like the back of your hand, but they can change as soon as you move in together, and may get the wrong idea--- hope it helped ! Hope you get sorted, good look!
I've bolded the important part. What changed from when you posted that?
As noted the right age to have a child is when you body has developed enough AND you can financially support the child.
kcomissiong
Mar 2, 2012, 10:35 AM
When you are old enough and smart enough to realize what a flat out stupid idea having a kid at 14 is.
JudyKayTee
Mar 2, 2012, 11:11 AM
I am curious to know why a 14-year old is desperate (her word) to have a baby.
smoothy
Mar 2, 2012, 11:17 AM
I am curious to know why a 14-year old is desperate (her word) to have a baby.
There really isn't any good reason for that... not even for an 18 year old, or anyone that's not fully capable of supporting the child and paying for everything themselves. And babies are extremely expensive to raise.
Wondergirl
Mar 2, 2012, 11:17 AM
I am curious to know why a 14-year old is desperate (her word) to have a baby.
I'm guessing (just guessing, mind you) that she's desperate simply because that's about the age when "baby hunger" hits teen girls. She's too old to play with Betsy Wetsy or even Barbie and very probably has a bed covered with stuffed animals that are there more for decoration than to play with. Therefore, any obvious playing with and mothering inanimate objects is for kids. Now she's more grown up, so it's time for the real thing--a real human baby.
kcomissiong
Mar 2, 2012, 12:29 PM
I was a teenaged mom. I had my daughter at 19, and even then, it was difficult. I had to drop out of college, and try to support her on eight dollars an hour. Its impossible, and I would have had to go on public assistance if I didn't have a supportive family that helped with childcare. It took a lot of scraping and work to be where I am today, and I have put so much of my life on hold to provide for my daughter. I still struggle with guilt because I know the life I would have wanted for her, and it wasn't what I was able to giver her. And, I was an adult. You are not physically, emotionally, or financially ready to have a child. Children aren't toys. You can't put them away when the new wears off. Some of the people who make the best parents realize that they aren't ready, and don't make the choice to become parents until they are. That is part of being a RESPONSIBLE parent... making sure you are in the best situation you can be for your child.