I know this guy since around four years ago. We were in the same major in college, so we were also in the same class couple times. We've never been close to each other, even talk (I mean really talk). I caught him looking at me often though when we were in class, but that's it until couple weeks before his graduation he invited us (his classmates) to come to his party. Couple days after, he added me to be his friend in FB and after that we had couple intense chats, he was really nice and compliment me for things I never thought he would notice before (like how I look, etc). That time I believe he has graduated, so that he moved and live in another city. One day he said wanted to return to visit some friends in college (I live in the town where our college is), so he said he if he can stay over couple days during weekend. Becos of some reasons (I had boyfriend that time) I said I can't help him, and he said he is okay with it. After that we had no contact at all, I don't know why, and I kind of didn't care about it.

Three years passing, and suddenly he popped up couple weeks a go and said he had a biggest crush on me when we were at college and he feel sorry that he couldn't really talk to me and spend time with me. He also asked how I feel about him. I can't say anything that time becoz I had never realized he had a crush on me. So I just said I like to be around him and I want to know more about him. I asked him to come to visit me in my country. We talk a lot about culture differences and he is kind of worry about norms and all differences that it won't support our relationship. Anyway, he is American and am Asian, right now we live far away from each other because I return back to my home country after my graduation. I don't know why but recently I think a lot about him, I want him to be here and see what could happen.

What should I do? Do you think what he said to me is true? Is he really worth it?

He seems to be telling the truth. Though having a crush on someone and to be truly deeply in love with someone are two separate things. If you think you can give him a chance, go ahead, though it will be tough to maintain a long distance cross-country relationship.

And what do mean by he's worried about norms and differences?

I live in a country that would make him run away becoz the norms which set the relationship between man and women before marriage are very strict (for instance he asked me whether it is possible for him to spend the night with me if he happen to visit me in my country; it is no way that the norm in my country "allow" it). So he asked me to go back to the states becoz there is no such rules there but I said I can't spend the night with him, its not about whether its going to be in the US or not, its about my believe (religion, norms and value)... so.. I guess I made my step about him, thanks for the answer Indya :)

Sasya, you shouldn't let him decide what you want to do! If you don't want to spend a night with him don't spend it, whether it's a rule or not.

If you have a belief and a value, you must stick to it and not let anyone change you. There are other things to do in a relationship than to spend nights together.

If he forces you to, he's not worth you.