My and my boyfriend have been together for close to a year . Normally we will start sex with a condom then take it off but he won't come inside me. I'm on the depo shot and don't have a period chances of getting pregnant are very rare what should I do or think ? Help please

There is still a chance of getting pregnant.

What should you do or think? You should use a condom the whole time (why bother if he takes it off?) and be thankful that you have a boyfriend of less than a year who is being at least a LITTLE BIT safe by SLIGHTLY minimizing the chance of impregnating you.

P.S. I know someone who got pregnant twice while using Depo. The second time, she was 5 months along before she knew because the one time she ovulated, she conceived and had no idea because her period never came.

Hey Lindsay. My ex was on the Depo Provera shot for about 3 years. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been on it, and how much research have you done on it? From my personal experience and a few other threads on this site... you may want to reconsider. With that being said, don't freak out about him not wanting to release inside you. I had only released inside of my ex twice in our 3 years on it. It just feels... weird to me, everything was just a bit TOO sensitive with my experience.

Another reason I didn't care to release inside of her was because it was highly erotic for me to just pull out and release on her back, leg, butt, breast... ankle, just everywhere. A third reason, at least for me, was because even though the Depo shot is supposed to be highly effective at preventing pregnancies, I just wanted to be extra safe and not have any of my sperm anywhere inside of her vagina. I hope this helps. At the end of the day simply ask him why he prefers to not release inside you, communication is key.

I've been on depo for 7 -8 months . I've done a lot if research on depo and there a very slim chance of it . He's gotten off in another girl before and it didn't seem to bother him but with me he's extremely careful and I'm kind of curious to why? I've never had a guy ejaculate inside of me an honestly I just want to know what it feels like .

A slim chance still means that you have a chance, just a slim one. Why is it that you want him to come inside so bad? He is just playing it safe, I am sure that neither of you are wanting to have a kid at this time, you should be thanking him instead of critizising him.

No we do t want kids . Like I said none of my other partners have got off inside me and I'm curious what it feels like . A lot of people I know like the feeling of it . And I do appreciate that he's playing it safe but I personally think that theirs the same chance of getting pregnant from I'm pulling out and coming on me as there is if he would just do it Inside me

I also tried to see if he would get off inside me and it didn't work . I was on top and he keep telling me to let him on top cause he's going to come and I didn't let him and he just went along with it the right before he got off he pulled me off .

Wow, you're tenacious! Have you at least asked him why he prefers not to? My ex actually begged me a handful of times to come inside her and even though I wanted to, in the back of my mind I was just like f*** no. If he's anything like me he's just deathly afraid of getting you pregnant. But then again you said that he's done it with other girls, so I don't know. Just ask him already.

I have asked him in a way . An he is scared of getting me pregnant . He only didn't in the other girl because when he pulls out she pulled him back inside her and would let me pull out .

You may want kids, but do you both want kids RIGHT NOW?

Neither of us want kids . Is it really as big of a deal for him to get off inside me as everyone's making it seem ? I'm not asking him to do it all the time just once.

Neither of us want kids. I personally don't see the big deal in him conning in me . Why does everyone seem so terrified about it ? Haven't you been curious to what something was like? Or wanted to try something new that's all I'm trying to do

I understand completely, you just want to try it at least once just to see what it's like. Everyone's so "terrified" about it because there's a very real chance, although incredibly slim, that you could get pregnant. If you can explain to him and present him with some very real facts about the effectiveness of the Depo shot at preventing pregnancies and convince him that you just want to try it ONCE, go for it. Just be prepared that there is a chance, even if it's a 0.01 percent chance, that you two could be proud parents 8-9 months later, just sayin'.

I understand the consequences . I think he's worried about it because his sister had a baby while one depo , but I see it as I can't get pregnant . If I don't have a period anymore how can I get pregnant

I understand the consequences . I think he's worried about it because his sister had a baby while one depo , but I see it as I can't get pregnant . If I don't have a period anymore how can I get pregnant
Even without a period, you can become pregnant. As I stated, I know someone who ovulated once but her period never came because she got pregnant that one time. It can happen.
As for wanting to try something new, its not an "obvious" sensation. You may not even be able to feel it. Its not as interesting to experience as you may think. If he doesn't want to, it's a mute point in your relationship. I'm sure it'll happen for you in time

Problem solved . I asked him about it and he said it does scare him but hea willing to do it at least once .

I don't really see what problem was fixed... in fact, now that he will inside, there is a potential problem if you were to get pregnant when both of your are not quite ready to have kids.

Just because you believe you can't get pregnant on depo, doesn't make it a fact and I hope your pleasure, and curiosity don't back fire. It only takes once. I think you appreciate what you have until the time is right. What's the hurry?

Just to make sure you're aware. Even if he doesn't ejaculate inside you there's plenty of sperm in pre-ejaculate to get you pregnant.

So, since he's penetrating without a condom, even if only for a while, there is still sperm entering you.

Also, there's no form of birth control that's 100% effective. Every time you have sex pregnancy is possible. We have a few people on this site right now that got pregnant on the depo shot.

But the choice is yours. Even if he does wear a condom, and you're on the depo shot, there's still a possibility of pregnancy. If he doesn't wear a condom, there's a higher possibility. If he actually ejaculates in you, then there's an even higher possibility.

Lindsay, how old are both of you? How serious is your relationship? Are you talking about the future or are you taking it one day at a time?

What I am seeing is someone who wants to chance a pregnancy (however slim the chance might be) on a sensation and who wants what she wants when she wants it. I am not sure if you have listened to your boyfriend or even care about his feelings. What he did with another female is not what he is currently doing with you (unless you want her in your bed along with him, I would suggest leaving her out any discussions on your sex life.)

Why not wait to tempt Nature until you are married or at least engaged? Then if you gamble and Nature wins, you will have a firmer foundation for making life altering decisions.

Hey Alty, is there REALLY sperm in pre-ejaculate? I don't want to get swarmed here (like I was with my very first question), but I've read a few studies here and there on the web that said yes and a few that said no. My ex was on the Depo shot for 3 years and I just always pulled on time, every time and even a year after she was off the shot. I'm just curious if it's a hard and true fact set in stone because I don't think it is.

Shouldn't STD's also be a concern? Pregnancy isn't the only potential issue when having sex without a condom.

Not all men precum , and yes I already now tr consequences. We're not planning to have kids anytimes soon and were discussed our options too. How old we're isn't really a concern . Also neither of us have a std. Just saying

Yes our relationship is very serious I'm moving in with him very soon . We talk about our future all the time .

Hey Alty, is there REALLY sperm in pre-ejaculate? I don't want to get swarmed here (like I was with my very first question), but I've read a few studies here and there on the web that said yes and a few that said no. My ex was on the Depo shot for 3 years and I just always pulled on time, every time and even a year after she was off the shot. I'm just curious if it's a hard and true fact set in stone because I don't think it is.

Ah, if I relied on the web for information I'd be lost. Most of the information on the web is not true. I could point to many sites or posts that give the wrong information.

There is plenty of sperm in pre-ejaculate. More than enough for pregnancy.

Also, the depo shot is a valid form of birth control, but like every other birth control method on the market, it's not 100%.

I think that people have to start questioning what they're willing to risk. If someone said "put this gun to your head, pull the trigger, there's a 98% chance you won't get shot", would you do it? Are those odds good enough for you?

Let's be even more realistic. Let's put human error into the equation, which makes birth control methods even less reliable. Just like our poster, she wants her boyfriend to ejaculate in her, not use a condom. So we up the ante. Is she using depo correctly? That is also a concern.

So is the depo shot effective? It's only as effective as the people using it, and even used correctly it's still not 100%.

I know many people personally that got pregnant on the depo shot.

I personally have a friend that had one ovary, PCOD, ovarian cysts, was on the pill, used a condom, doctor told her she'd never have children, and she got pregnant. In fact, she has 3 children, all conceived while on birth control and with all her other issues.

Getting pregnant while using birth control is not as rare as people think.

Not all men precum

You know this as a fact? I'd have to say that you're pretty much wrong here. You may not see it, but it happens.

You know this as a fact? I'd have to say that you're pretty much wrong here. You may not see it, but it happens.

Yup. I love when people post crap they found on the internet.

Pre- is a natural lubricant that happens when a man is aroused. Just like women get "wet" when they're aroused, men do too. That wetness is loaded with sperm. All it takes is one.

But hey, it's not my body. I'm not the one that would have to go through the pregnancy. Not my choice. But, the poster asked for info, and we gave her the correct info, not the misinformation found on the web. It's her choice now. If she chooses wrong then I see a "Am I pregnant" thread in her future.

All men precum then how come I've never saw it or felt it ? Yet again I said we discussed our options and both agreed on the same thing option .

I haven't hung out with you and your guy so I can't say for sure why you haven't seen or felt it... but the fact is, it happens.

I'm just wondering shouldn't I feel that or something ? We've been having sex for quite sometime now and I haven't noticed anything . Do they precum every time

All men precum then how come I've never saw it or felt it ? Yet again I said we discussed our options and both agreed on the same thing option .

You've never seen it or felt it because the majority of women don't. New flash, most women don't feel a man ejaculate inside of them. I never have.

If you've discussed it and both of you are okay with the possibility that you could become pregnant, then that's the choice the two of you have made.

We can only give you the facts. What you do with them is your business.

Good luck.

I'm not getting pregnant just saying . I'm tired of everyone Saying I'm going to . I'm to young I'm not going to be having a child at my age , it's way too soon .

And yet your telling me not to do it but yet you've done it before .

And yet ur telling me not to do it but yet you've done it before .

Of course I have. I'm married, and I wanted children. I have 2. It's a lot easier to get pregnant when you don't use birth control.

Okay well I'm on birth control , it's not like I sleep with every guy I've been with him and one other person . Me and him are in a very serious relationship were moving in together in a few months .

I'm not gettin pregnant just saying . I'm tired of everyone Sayin I'm going to . I'm to young I'm not going to be having a child at my age , it's way too soon .

There's a difference between not wanting a child, and having one.

You can say that you're too young all you want. The fact is, you're having sex, so pregnancy is possible.

It's not all up to you. It's not all your choice. Things can and do happen.

You have the information. It's up to you to decide. If you choose to take chances then don't come back saying you didn't know, because you were told.

It's up to you now. We can't force you to accept the facts, we can only give them to you.

You can keep posting that you don't believe it, but you've been told the truth. There's nothing else we can tell you. You're resisting the truth. That's your choice, but don't think for a minute that just because you want to ignore that truth, and don't want a child, that you can't get pregnant. You can.


Okay well I'm on birth control , it's not like I sleep with every guy I've been with him and one other person . Me and him are in a very serious relationship were moving in together in a few months .

Yes. My friend was on birth control too, even though she was told by two different doctors that she'd never have children. Not ever.

She has 3, all conceived while on birth control.

We have a member on this site that is currently pregnant. She was on the depo shot, used it correctly.

We have other members on this site that got pregnant using 3 different forms of birth control.

I'm glad that you're serious, but you keep saying you don't want a child right now. Are you prepared to accept that you may have one even if you don't want one?

The way you're posting you seem so certain that an unwanted pregnancy cannot happen. That's simply not true.

If you come back and say "we're serious, we're moving in together, and if I get pregnant, even though we don't want a baby right now, we'll accept it", then fine.

But that's not what you're saying. You seem to think that it can't happen. We're telling you with absolute fact that it can.

I'm not gettin pregnant just saying . I'm tired of everyone Sayin I'm going to . I'm to young I'm not going to be having a child at my age , it's way too soon .

How young ARE you?

:/ I think all men pre-***, unless he has a condition that says otherwise. I'm not trying to come down on you like some of the others are, we're just saying that it's a very real possibility that you could become pregnant.

Some STD's take years to surface so unless you're both being tested regularly, its possible. Pregnancy is also possible. I think you're looking for validation that if he's willing to have risky sex with you, it must mean he likes you a lot.

Early in the thread you made it sound as though it makes him nervous but he's willing to do it just once for you... that sounds to me like he's uncomfortable and you should respect his wishes. He has good reason to be concerned as all the posters above me have pointed out.

At the end of the day, you're going to do what you want to do and that's fine, but you did come here asking questions and we all answered as truthfully as possible. At least you have the proper information in front of you.