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ashleyyyG
Feb 12, 2012, 11:14 PM
Hi,
I have known this guy since 6th grade. We have seen each other randomly after that, and well we started talking in high school. We hung out once and had a good time, he would stare at me, and try flirting with me. Recently I told him I wanted him to forget about me because well I wanted to see his reaction. He got mad.

I went to his house yesterday and said sorry, and wrote him a long letter telling him I liked him and stuff like that. He said thank you and we talked, and then he had to leave. He hasn't texted me or called to say anything. After we hung out a while ago, he talked to me about hookups and stuff like that could be an option for us if we both agreed on it.

But I noticed after what I said to him about forgetting about me, he hasn't acted the same or texted even. So yeah, he is very confusing, and I don't know if he likes me. I really don't know what to do? I feel like I've don't everything I could have done.

talaniman
Feb 13, 2012, 05:47 PM
That's what happens when we play games with the feelings of others. They loss interest, and respect. I know you didn't intend to, but telling someone something to see, or get a reaction, instead of being honest, is a GAME!

Now that you know, back away from him and no hook ups. They will not win his heart either, and I think you have lost trust and opportunity. The lesson to take from this experience is that honesty has its rewards, and games have consequences.

Don't chase him for his attention.

ohsohappy
Feb 13, 2012, 06:18 PM
Tal said exactly what I was going to say. If someone did that to me I'd actually forget, because that's stupid. I don't play those games. You showed him that you play games, so now all he wants to do is "play around" He doesn't take you seriously anymore and I'm sure he sees you as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it too, so to speak. Obviously this was not your intention, I know you were probably curious, but some things you shouldn't test just because you can. I'm going to repeat Tal and say NO HOOK UPS, because this is how he will see you from now on.