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aye16
Feb 11, 2012, 04:49 PM
Me and my boyfriend been going out 1 year, 5 months. I really love him. We just broke up today because we argued a lot. He changed in the bad way. He's not the guy I fall in love with. I told him that but he said he still the same.
I don't know what to do because before we broke up, he treated me bad this week. But he said he loves me too much to hurt me, and wants me to be happy. He knows I'm happy with him. Every time I'm not with him I'm sad, and so down. What should I do?
talaniman
Feb 11, 2012, 05:38 PM
Did he apologize for his bad treatment? How old is he?
aye16
Feb 11, 2012, 05:40 PM
He said he never treat me bad, but he does. & 16
talaniman
Feb 11, 2012, 05:41 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregnancy-new-motherhood/missed-period-2-days-can-pregnant-what-possibilities-627013.html
Could this have anything to do with what's going on, and are you pregnant?
aye16
Feb 11, 2012, 05:43 PM
No I'm not pregnant.
Fr_Chuck
Feb 11, 2012, 06:50 PM
No you do not need him, and not sure why you are obsessed to someone who is treating you badly. You should be glad to see him gone. Of course he says he loves you, since he enjoys sex, has a regular partner and girlfriend and if you break up with him, he may have to actually treat someone nice for a while to get a new girlfriend.
He will not even admit he treated you bad, so why would he change
ScottGem
Feb 11, 2012, 07:05 PM
This is why teenagers are often too young for long term relationships and too young for a sexual relationship.
The teen years are full of change. You are developing rapidly, physically and emotionally. And becoming sexually active brings change to a relationship. Clearly the two of you have changed. Of course, neither of you are the same people you were a year ago. You have to understand this and move on.
talaniman
Feb 12, 2012, 11:40 AM
Love, intense feelings, a crush, a sexual attraction. No matter what this is, you get away from anyone that treats you badly, and refuses to acknowledge it. Just because without a doubt he will keep doing it.
This is not the love and caring you want. You must believe within yourself, that you DESERVE much better than this. Thank God you are NOT pregnant... this time.
RUN!! Save yourself more misery, and bad treatment.
aye16
Apr 29, 2012, 10:14 AM
Well me and my ex boyfriend were together 1 year and 7 months. I broke up with him because he lied to a lot of times. And after 1 week he's going out with my friend. Well she's not my friend any more because she never asked me if she can date him. I just found they dating and she ddint care. I still love my ex boyfriend and I don't know what to do. They both blaming because first my ex boyfriend told me he been texting but I never reply and second my "friend" was blaming me because I wasn't talking to him. I don't know what to do I've been crying and trying to forget. But I can't I'm just hurt inside .
DoulaLC
Apr 29, 2012, 10:38 AM
HI aye16,
It is hard now, but you are lucky, and in time you will realise that. Your ex lied a lot of times, so you know you would never really be able to believe him if you ever did get back together. So it is good that you don't have to worry about being lied to anymore. There are plenty of guys who won't treat you that way. Sure you may still love some things about him, but he isn't the total package that you deserve. That is what dating is for... to learn about what you want and don't want in a relationship.
Your friend really didn't need to ask you about dating your ex since he was your ex, but most truly good friends wouldn't have started dating him and certainly not just a week later. They were obviously already interested in each other before you even broke up.
So dry your tears, it is good that you are done with both of them. He was not very good boyfriend material and she was not very good friend material.
Start spending more time with other friends and getting involved in activities you enjoy. You will have some hard days, but it will get easier and before long you will meet a new guy who you can actually trust to be honest.
aye16
Jun 5, 2012, 07:21 PM
Ok, so me & my boyfriend been together since September Of 2010.. But On April 2012, we broke up because he lied to me but it wasn't even a big lie I just overreacted. But After 1 week we broke up, him & my "friend" (shes not my friend anymore) started dating.. But even though they were together he still see me & told me he loves me. Two Weeks Later, he broke up with her because he still loves me & what he did was a big mistake and he was sorry.. But 1 month after they broke up, we started talking again & telling me he wanted me back & he needs me.. I know he mean it and he was serious about it. And when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I said yes. Although me & him still love each other I still have doubts.. I don't want to look stupid in front of people. I don't want them to say I'm stupid for getting back out with him. But before I said yes to him, I talked to other guys but I just can't take them seriously when I know I still love him. So I need help!! I need advice.. Thank you .
smoothy
Jun 5, 2012, 07:34 PM
Ok, so me & my boyfriend been together since September Of 2010.. But On April 2012, we broke up because he lied to me but it wasnt even a big lie i just overreacted. But After 1 week we broke up, him & my "friend" (shes not my friend anymore) started dating.. But even though they were together he still see me & told me he loves me. Two Weeks Later, he broke up with her because he still loves me & what he did was a big mistake and he was sorry.. But 1 month after they broke up, we started talking again & telling me he wanted me back & he needs me.. I know he mean it and he was serious about it. And when he asked me to be his gf again i said yes. Although me & him still love each other i still have doubts.. I dont want to look stupid in front of people. I dont want them to say im stupid for getting back out with him. But before i said yes to him, i talked to other guys but i just can't take them seriously when i know i still love him. So i need help !!! I need advice.. Thank you .
Being this iis the third time you've asked essentially the same question on the same topic about the same loser... why do you think the answers will change...
You are 16... and this is the LAST thing you should be worrying about.. unless you think a Walmart greeter is a lucrative career path.
Not to mention your pregnancy scare never taught you anything...
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregnancy-new-motherhood/missed-period-2-days-can-pregnant-what-possibilities-627013.html
I think you can be certain... you ARE going to look stupid.
Fr_Chuck
Jun 5, 2012, 08:30 PM
You never said how you felt about him that much, just how you are worried what others will think, it sounds like you are far too immature to have a boyfriend in a serious relationship, since a real boyfriend is not a trophy, they are who they are, and will be stupid at times and will have people not like it at others.