I do like to socialize but some how unable to talk or express myself?Even my wife thinks I am a less talkative person which often makes me sad ?any solution for this problem?please help

How much do you know about yourself? Why do you feel you need to be more talkative? My husband is very sociable, but hardly ever speaks. My best male friend on the otherhand speaks like a waterfall. Both are great guys. I suggest for you to take a free personality type test on www.ipersonic.com. It might help you be more insightful about who you are, so you don't have to be sad, but proud.

Try talking to yourself when you are alone. Or looking into a mirror and talking. There could be two reasons you talk less


You talk less with everyone including people who are close to you: In this case its a personality trait nothing wrong with it. You don't to be talkative to be fun.
You talk less in social gatherings: Could be that you do not open up easily to acquaintances and strangers or that you just do not want to make a fool of yourself by saying something stupid. You can try by picking up a few funny one liners or short jokes as a conversation starter. You can also get the other person talking by striking up a topic they are interested in.

Try opening up little by little. It will be fine.

Oh and on a side note, girls/wives always find their men less talkative by comparison ;)

Don't change yourself. You are what you are.
It's a genetic property by the way

I too struggle with not being talkative, though mine seems to stem from social anxiety and is acute when around females. One thing I have realised is that a lot of interactions and conversations seem to involve people trying to outdo each other in terms of wise cracks, wherein the person who elicits the most laughs accrues more social proof and would thus appear to be more accepted. I have learnt not to try and be humourous at every opportunity I can, but make sure you really listen and digest what others are saying, and if you do want to add a bit of humour into the conversation, try and make it more observational, quirky humour and if the occasion is appropriate, add some dirty/sexualised humour i.e. double entendres, as opposed to cracking jokes at other peoples expense or humour which denigrates minorities/races/circumstances, as you may not what will offend your audience. Thus, to become more talkative, try and strike up as many random (safe) conversations as you can during your day, because experience will help reduce potential introversion gradually, and as for humour, see above, as well as watching stand-up videos on YouTube, these serve as ammo for you if you can replicate it - suggested comedians include Danny Bhoy, Dave Chapelle.