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confused1881
Feb 9, 2012, 02:47 AM
Ok well I don't know what to do.. I'm 18 and have been with my husband for 3 1\2 years and married 2years I have one son with him that is 2yr and I got with my boyfriend when I was 15 got married when I was 16. He is nice but kind of lazy he lost his job about a month ago and hasn't really looked for a new one.. He doesn't really do any thing but sleep and watcha movies and play ps3 I do love him.. But he doesn't really ever tell m I'm pretty or anything like that. I have told him if he dose think I am if he could just say it every once in awhile. But you know how that go's.. I'm not confinedt me myself about my looks so days I eel good about myself and some days I do.. Everybody has always told me that I could do better.. I have only been with him and one other guy that was his best friend and he cheated on me.. So I have trust issues and have tried not to be to jealous.. My sister's boyfriend has always like me and always said he would drop any thing and everything to be with me.. everybody said I could get any one I wanted why would I stay with my husband.. But I don't know if what I dealing with is wroth giving up on my husband I love him but think I got in to getting married to early. I don't want to leave him.. But than again I do I have been think about this for a long time.. Please help I'm so confused on what I should do...

Swiss_Ms.B
Feb 9, 2012, 04:23 PM
Sounds like your husband is escaping from reality which could indicate a type of depression, which again is understandable in his situation. And he might feel overwhelmed with his responsibilities not having work. I take it that he is about your age? For the sake of your son it is extremely important to keep a good relationship with him.
About wanting him to give you compliments... how often do YOU give HIM sincere compliments? He might not be seeing a lot of selfworth at the moment and it's hard to give others what they want in a situation like that.
You need to find a way to communicate with each other to find out what you both need. Counseling could help here. It must be pretty hard when everyone around you keeps saying you could do better. That really sucks and pulls down even more. Does your husband know what everyone thinks of him? I sure hope not!

Homegirl 50
Feb 9, 2012, 04:50 PM
Are there adults both of you can talk to. Sort of a mentor couple. You guys are really young, Counseling could be the thing to help save your marriage. Another thing to do is stop listening to people who want to break it up.