When I was 11 years old I got in touch with a guy called Fred on net. We both live in India but in different cities. I live in Mumbai and he lives in Delhi. He was 22 years old at that time and we just spoke casually. We spoke for 2 years and had never met each other. We never spoke about liking each other or anything like that. We spoke very casually! Just as normal friends.

When I was 13years old, his friend Jay was coming to mumbai and he asked me to meet jay as he had sent a gift for me along with jay. I was curious so I went to meet his friend. I was a small girl and I knew that I was going to meet a man so I took my best friend along and informed Jay.
Surprisingly he got his cousin along as I think he was uncomfortable to come and meet two girls alone.

His friend Jay was the most handsome man I had ever seen in my life. We went to a very quite park where no one would see us as I did not want my parents to see me meeting a stranger (that to a man). His cousin and my friend were sitting somewhere else and both of us were alone.
We chatted for a while and I asked him that where is the gift that Fred sent for me? He said that he forgot to get it. I was okay with it.
We were standing very close to each other and our shoulders were brushing against each other.
I asked him his age and he said he was 22 years old. He asked me mine and I said I was 13.
He was shocked because I looked mature.
We spoke for a while and then it was time to leave so said goodbye and exchanged email ids.

After two months we got in touch on hotmail chat. The day we started chatting he started flirting day itself. I was on cloud nine. He was my first fling and he was just so handsome. He was a MAN! We started having sex chats but then I was not to mature so I gave him stupid answers like I will not suck his ****, because I thought it was gross!
He probably got irritated with that and realized that I just looked mature but I was just a kid.
He chatted with me 3-4 times and then started ignoring me all of a sudden. I was heart broken! Though I have never met Fred till date(the one through who I got to know jay).
After a few months He suddenly said a hi! In rage I just showed attitude and I replied bye and he said a bye to. I spoke to Fred about it and I found out that jay lied to me
After that I never spoke to him about his age and that he was 25 years old and not 22years.
That means he is 11years elder to me. I try to show that I don't care but I do.
Now I'm a 17 year old girl and jay is 28 years old but I'm still missing him! Though we live in different cities and I have met him once in my life and have spoken to him 4-5 times on net! He is tooooo handsome to let go! It has been years since I have spoken to him. Last I spoke to him was in 2009. I feel so high whenever I think of him. I want him back. I stalk him soooooo much on Facebook (though I'm not his friend on it and his wall and photos are available). I know a lot about him as I stalk him!
I just cannot get over him!
Now the irony is that Fred has started to like me (though we have never met). He thinks am hot and wants to have sex with me. But I like jay!
I want jay back in my life! What should I do? Pleassssssssssseeeeeeeeeee help me! Though he is 11years elder to me

Sex chats at 13? He's a predator.

I notice that this is not the relationship you posted about here - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/am-16-year-old-girl-should-date-20-year-old-632427-2.html#post3019739

I think you're too young (judging by your posts) to consider having sex with anyone - lots of guys are going to want to have sex with you. That's life. The question is whether it's wise or whether you want to have sex with them.

I note that you sneak behind your parents' back to date - also not terribly wise.

Why have all your friends walked away from you? Similar issues with your behavior? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/emotional-wellbeing/whats-wrong-me-631221.html

Um the relationship that I posted in the other one is the current one.
But thank you sooooo much:)

Friends!! Lets put it this way, I have trust issues, it might sound crazy but many astrologers have told
Me that I will only get vil friends! All my friends have ditched me since I was small. I have
Always remained loyal though. I am confident that I am a good person but I am surely immature and lonely,
Therefore I have date guys who are elder to me so I get a protective feeling (not getting emotionally attched to them either).. that's how I live.. but I'm not happy

Sounds like a grown man, who was "grooming" a child for a future sex partner at some point and time. My guess he has several like this in waiting.

I think nothing happens, and when you are at least 19 you consider dating him but you still have a child's dream and unrealistic thoughts and plans that will never be like you think.

Thank you for your concern fr_chuck:)
But I am so into him. I really want him so bad.
I cannot get over him! He is just so handsome.
It has been 4 years.. I really need him.
What should I do?

Nothing - you are making yourself look foolish and childish. Again, you've been sneaking around behind your parents' backs since you were 11. Now you have no friends because you are giving oral sex to fellow classmates.

I'm sure your reputation is turning this "love of your life" away from you.

I think you'd better take a second look at yourself.

Judy kae tee you are very rude!
This guy does not know anything about me!
You do not know me in person so do not judge. I have no friends because I have trust issues.
I have always met backstabbing people! Stop judging and from now on please keep out of my way!

Judy may be offending you, but she's one of those rare people that speaks harsh truth, and in a lot of cases we need that to actually see we have a problem.

Judy kae tee you are very rude!
This guy does not know anything about me!
You do not know me in person so do not judge. I have no friends because I have trust issues.
I have always met backstabbing people! Stop judging and from now on please keep out of my way!



Don't attempt to dictate who will and who will not answer you and in what fashion.

You have many issues. Trust may be one of them. I don't know BUT you ask a question, expect to get honest answers. You want people to agree with you talk to your friends - or how about your family?