Log in

View Full Version : Talk to someone about my relationship?


kc12345
Feb 2, 2012, 11:10 AM
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half,we have been through a lot. It's kind of a long story. The last few days I've been stuck at my moms and he has been at his folks cause the night that I ended up here and him at his parents, found his truck finally took a crap on him, when I talked to him later that night he said sorry about not being able to pick me up, cause he knows what my mother is like with me, I told him don't be sorry. Yesterday when I talked to him I think it went really good, he told me he misses me too and loves me back. When I asked him if we would be able to see each other this week or weekend he said that he would see what he could do cause he might be working with his old boss today and is helping a friends's friend move this weekend, after we got off the phone I called him back a few minutes later cause I forgot to ask him a question, he raised his voice a little when I asked him a question that I have asked before, then we got into a little argument about me trying to find a job, after that his voice got calmer and I told him if I miss him before he heads into work today to have a good day at work, he told him to have a good day trying to find work and wished me luck and tells me he loves me back... I want to know if he will leave me?

awesomagic
Feb 9, 2012, 09:33 AM
It doesn't sound like he will leave you. Couples argue. That's just something that goes along with every relationship. In my opinion, as long as there is no abuse, and the occasional argument doesn't turn into constant fighting, I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe he was tired. Maybe there was something on his mind that he doesn't want to bother you with. Maybe it just came out wrong. I'm not saying that it's any one of those things, but all of those things could be a possibility. I wouldn't question him just for raising his voice. Let it go and enjoy being with him. He obviously loves you. Everything will be just fine.

KellyC7
Feb 16, 2012, 06:48 PM
Honestly, awesomagic is right. Couples do argue from time to time! It's part of being in a relationship. Two people with different traits are bound to disagree somewhere along the line, but that doesn't change the way they feel about each other. In relationships, everyone goes through a lot. They are complex, each individual has been through their own ordeals, and it's important to be honest and open with each other. You will still have been through, and go through, much more... but you'll be able to do so together. When you have issues like this, the most important thing is to be able to discuss them calmly with one another. Initially, it's human for him to raise his voice, as well as for you to raise yours, but later, you must sit down together and clarify things. Sometimes people get irritated when they feel things are redundant, or they would rather avoid the topic altogether. Reassure him that you're just inquiring because you care about him, and you care about your relationship. Be very clear on the expectations you may have of him and focus on one thing at a time. If he has to work, though, don't get frustrated with him. If you don't get a chance to see each other this week, that's not a big deal, there is always next! Write it down! It helps!

Also, you have to have your own obligations and such outside of your relationship. Picking up a hobby or finding a job would be a wonderful way to keep busy, so when you come together, there will be even more mutual appreciation.

Hope this helps. Good luck!