guyovich
Feb 1, 2012, 01:41 PM
All right guys, please bare with me and my wall of text.
I've been with this female for 10 months, knew her for 2 months before that. Amazing girl. She's caught me with another girl, not physically but texting, (I know I'm an idiot). Last Saturday, she tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship. I said "why", she said she "doesn't know, she needs to find her self".
I instantly act, grab all my stuff from her house, she's crying for me not to leave. I told her I'm no fool. Either you cheated on me, or someone else is talking to you, (I've been the other guy before, I was young). So, I grab my stuff, she's crying. I leave.
She sends me a text she's sorry she met with some guy she knew before, they kissed that's it. I completely ignore her from that point. Next morning, I have 2 calls from her, and 3 texts. Didn't bother reading them, just deleted them.
That day, her mom calls who lives out of town. She asked what happened, I tell her everything, she says she can't believe me. The whole week, she's been calling me, texting me when she gets home, texting me "good morning", "good night" and such.
I don't respont at all.
Her mom calls again, she asked me to do her a favor, because she's helped me out with money before, (tough economy she was like a second mother to me), I said fine what's the favor, talk to her she's not eating, not sleeping, its affecting her at work. So I said OK, I'm going to talk to her only once and that's it.
Called her, she was crying, she said she misses me, loves me blah blah blah. She says she wants to talk things over, to come over, (yesterday), and talk. I gave in and went. We talked, I asked her why, she said she knew about a fling I had before I met her, I lied to her a bunch of times about girls that would text me, (past girls.. Nothing wrong with that right?).
She was tired of me treating her like garbage, always disrespecting her. This is true even my brother told me a week before we broke off, "I don't know how you get away with talking to her like that". So I said you know what? In the past, females have forgiven for doing what she did. I'll do it.
Now she says she loves me, but doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, but she wants us to be friends and work being back slowly, she asked me to go for dinner this weekend. I said fine, but I want to know what this is about? Are we going to give "us" a shot, or you want to "get a piece of the cake", and that's it?
She said she wants to give "us" a shot, she's willing to put in the effort, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship, just to take it slow, and see where it leads. Ok, So I left.
On my way home she calls, she just wanted to hear my voice, she says while we are working to get back, not to say "I love you", "I miss you," because it will hurt her, she still feels guilty of what she's done. She doesn't want to lose the only thing that motivated her. So then I said OK, I told her if she feels like telling me that go ahead, I probably won't respond back, (I won't).
So today she calls me in the morning I pick up, didn't realize who was calling me because I erased her number. It was her, she said has my mom been calling you? I said yes, she said don't pick up please, she's forcing me to be with you, I want it to come natural. I said fine, no problem.
Now here's my dilemma.
First time user here, have I screwed things up by not doing the whole NC thing? I mean what should I do at this point? I do love this chick, she knows it, she "loves me", I think she's confused with me and another guy. Should I just start NC from now on? Should I go out with her this weekend, if I get a bad vibe then end?
Help out guys!
I've been with this female for 10 months, knew her for 2 months before that. Amazing girl. She's caught me with another girl, not physically but texting, (I know I'm an idiot). Last Saturday, she tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship. I said "why", she said she "doesn't know, she needs to find her self".
I instantly act, grab all my stuff from her house, she's crying for me not to leave. I told her I'm no fool. Either you cheated on me, or someone else is talking to you, (I've been the other guy before, I was young). So, I grab my stuff, she's crying. I leave.
She sends me a text she's sorry she met with some guy she knew before, they kissed that's it. I completely ignore her from that point. Next morning, I have 2 calls from her, and 3 texts. Didn't bother reading them, just deleted them.
That day, her mom calls who lives out of town. She asked what happened, I tell her everything, she says she can't believe me. The whole week, she's been calling me, texting me when she gets home, texting me "good morning", "good night" and such.
I don't respont at all.
Her mom calls again, she asked me to do her a favor, because she's helped me out with money before, (tough economy she was like a second mother to me), I said fine what's the favor, talk to her she's not eating, not sleeping, its affecting her at work. So I said OK, I'm going to talk to her only once and that's it.
Called her, she was crying, she said she misses me, loves me blah blah blah. She says she wants to talk things over, to come over, (yesterday), and talk. I gave in and went. We talked, I asked her why, she said she knew about a fling I had before I met her, I lied to her a bunch of times about girls that would text me, (past girls.. Nothing wrong with that right?).
She was tired of me treating her like garbage, always disrespecting her. This is true even my brother told me a week before we broke off, "I don't know how you get away with talking to her like that". So I said you know what? In the past, females have forgiven for doing what she did. I'll do it.
Now she says she loves me, but doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, but she wants us to be friends and work being back slowly, she asked me to go for dinner this weekend. I said fine, but I want to know what this is about? Are we going to give "us" a shot, or you want to "get a piece of the cake", and that's it?
She said she wants to give "us" a shot, she's willing to put in the effort, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship, just to take it slow, and see where it leads. Ok, So I left.
On my way home she calls, she just wanted to hear my voice, she says while we are working to get back, not to say "I love you", "I miss you," because it will hurt her, she still feels guilty of what she's done. She doesn't want to lose the only thing that motivated her. So then I said OK, I told her if she feels like telling me that go ahead, I probably won't respond back, (I won't).
So today she calls me in the morning I pick up, didn't realize who was calling me because I erased her number. It was her, she said has my mom been calling you? I said yes, she said don't pick up please, she's forcing me to be with you, I want it to come natural. I said fine, no problem.
Now here's my dilemma.
First time user here, have I screwed things up by not doing the whole NC thing? I mean what should I do at this point? I do love this chick, she knows it, she "loves me", I think she's confused with me and another guy. Should I just start NC from now on? Should I go out with her this weekend, if I get a bad vibe then end?
Help out guys!