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avaldez
Jan 25, 2012, 01:47 PM
Hello everyone. Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 beautiful months. The problem is his baby mama drama and her family which they donot like the fact that he has a girlfriend, the first time I let slide by we had just started dating they told his son who is 5 that since he has a girlfriend he could no longer be his father so that he had to choose him or me but my boyfriend had a talk with him and explained that he is his father and always will be with or without a girlfriend and to not listen to his mother. And well his birthday is around the corner his turning six now the other day me and my boyfriend were shopping for the party supplies when his son which was with his mothers family called my boyfriend to le him know that he could no longer go visit or stay with him because he had me and that he loved me more, at that point my boyfriends mother went to go pick him up and he didn't want to come home so me and my boyfriend had to go pick him up and was happy to come with us when we asked who told him he couldn't be with him because of me he said his grandma and mom told him that. I just look at him and hugged him and said his father loves him very much and not to pay attention to those comments his mothers family makes because his father would be heart broken if he didn't want to see him again and he understood but now it's the same thing again and we just don't know how to handle this help me please.

jess2202
Jan 25, 2012, 02:31 PM
Well, I'm a single mom and I'm dating a wonderful man, unfortunately, my ex does the same thing to my daughter. And it sounds like your boyfriends ex needs to take a parenting class because she is only hurting there son. Unfortunately, your boyfriend needs to put his foot down and get the courts involved. My daughter was coming home from her dad's house saying things like " daddy is going to shoot and kill Mommy " what I did was I started taking her to a child therapist. (They are mandatory reporters) meaning if they hear anything like that they are required by law to report it the CPS. So, after taking her to a therapist all those things will come out and they will report it. Better yet why don't you get CPS involved? It's a form of abuse. Because the way a child sees things is he is apart of mom and apart of dad if there is something wrong with mom or dad there is something wrong with him. Anyway when I was going through that it's stressful and a lot of money but you'd do anything for your kids and anything to protect them. Just don't say anything negative about his mom because then your doing the same thing as they are. Stay positive and get him to a child therapist. Good luck