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Dm121908
Jan 18, 2012, 09:41 PM
Ok me and my babymamma has been broken up for almost two years now and we had sex once a year ago after she invited me over after we had a big fight. But last year she wanted to be sex buddies but I said no then she was like OK and we never tried to have sex since then. We both have moved on and I just moved in with my new girlfriend. But my baby mamma still calls and use my son as an excuse to start a fight over little stuff why does she do that? We already been to court and I been paying my child support but I tell her why can't your boyfriend help you like my girlfriend helps me. I asked if she still want me but all she says is no I have a boyfriend now and we can only talk about our son and we can't hang out. But then sometimes she txt out the blue about little stuff and still argues. I just want to know what is going through her head? And does she still want to be with me or love me? If she does why don't she just tell me the truth?

Fr_Chuck
Jan 18, 2012, 10:21 PM
It takes two to argue. So if she wants to talk about the child something important, call and talk, tell her bye when the talk goes somewhere else, hang up when she starts to argue.
Put her on speaker phone with your new girlfriend and let her know that the talk will be about the child only.

Dm121908
Jan 19, 2012, 06:55 AM
All right thanks but why does she argue about stuff though when I do help her she even threatened to get full custody after she knew I moved in with my girlfriend but she has a boyfriend,so what does that mean?

talaniman
Jan 19, 2012, 06:59 AM
She is screwing with your head to keep your life miserable, so she can frustrate you, and get control of you, and get more from you.

Probably why you didn't make it as a couple. Keep it about the child, and don't argue.

Jake2008
Jan 19, 2012, 07:06 AM
The only thing you can do, is stop responding to her whining, unless it has to directly deal with your son.

Visitation will require some communication.

Other than that, ignore everything else.

Dm121908
Jan 19, 2012, 08:09 AM
Thanks I will ignore her unless its an emergency, why does she want to control me though if she has a boyfriend why can't he help her if he really cares about her my girlfriend helps me with the little stuff,what is she not happy with her boyfriend?

Dm121908
Jan 19, 2012, 08:10 AM
And what more is she trying to get from me when it involves money I always say no use the child support

Dm121908
Jan 19, 2012, 08:18 AM
Thanks I will ignore her unless its an emergency, why does she want to control me though if she has a boyfriend why can't he help her if he really cares about her my girlfriend helps me with the little stuff,what is she not happy with her boyfriend?

talaniman
Jan 19, 2012, 08:37 AM
Who knows what goes through the mind of anyone. Doesn't matter her motives. All that matters is what you do about it.

She is who she is. Insane, wacky, whatever. She might not know herself. That's why you don't wonder about the why, just deal with her actions and words.

What?? Are you trying to be a crazy as she is, or something??