Me and my partner have been in a relationship for 16 months. She has 3 kids from a previous partner. She ended the relationship because he cheated on her.

She gets jealous when I get text messages from my friends and she starts thinking I am doing the same as he did. I want to go out and have time to myself and be with my friends. But she says to me "If you go out for a drink with them, I will break up with you.". It's like she don't trust me because of what her ex did to her, and that ain't fair on me.

What can I do to gain her trust, so I can go out, and be with my friends?

Show her how much you love her and care about her don't bring up sex or nothing because sh ewill think that that is all you want . Don't even bring it up and you should be getting that .

She still has a lot of hurt feelings and baggage from the past. That makes her a very unhealthy partner at this time.

Tell her you won't tolerate paying for the sins of the ex, or you have no choice but to leave, until she gets over herself. Do what you want because being dumped is better than dating a person who just is not ready for a healthy relationship.

Love has nothing to do with it, because she needs a proper healing to get her head on straight. You're right, its not fair to you, or her either truth be told. And if you allow bad behavior, that's what you get.

To be honest there is not a lot she has trust issues which is something she will have to sort out talk to her explain she can't do that to you you haven't cheeted on her and never will if she threatens with abreak up again call her bluff and go she can't keep you prisoner in your life