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nygypsy1
Jan 16, 2012, 07:40 PM
I'm 12 and I want to get my cartilage pierced and I have asked my mom 1,000,000 times and she won't give in. I can pay for it myself and I have made a list of chores I would do around the house if she let me get it pierced. And still no. All I hear from her is no. She thinks I'm to young to get any thing but my 1st and 2nd lobe pierced.


Please give me advice


THANKS

Wondergirl
Jan 16, 2012, 07:45 PM
Wait. Be patient. Drop it for now. The more you bug her, the more she will dig in her heels and say no. If you irritate her enough, she will make you wait until you are 18.

DrJ
Jan 16, 2012, 08:51 PM
Instead of making a list of chores you WILL do around the house... why not start doing those chores now? Don't make an issue of it.. just start doing them along with other things that will reflect your maturity. After you have shown that you are a responsible child and capable of making decisions for yourself, she may have a little more leniency.

By the way, what "cartilage" are you talking about? The cartilage in your ear? Nose? Or somewhere else?

Fr_Chuck
Jan 16, 2012, 08:53 PM
I of course agree you are too young and your mom is right.

But if any of my children keep bugging and bugging me and asking me 1000 times, I would be sure they never got to.

And no you can't get it done without moms OK. Even if you found someone that would, mom can just make you stop wearing the ring.

LisaB4657
Jan 16, 2012, 08:59 PM
I have an 11 year old daughter and if she asked for a cartilage piercing, this is what I'd tell her.

Your body is not done growing yet. Your earlobes are basically just skin and fat so if they're pierced their shape shouldn't change as you grow. I don't think the same can be said for cartilage. If you pierced it now and wore jewelry it's possible that the shape of your ear would change as you continue to grow and it might become malformed.

Let your body finish developing before you try to change it, OK?

angeybabe2472
Jan 16, 2012, 09:03 PM
Well I think 12 maybe a bit too young for something like that, maybe you should still think about it, because later on you might regret it. Just give it some time and try not to ask as much, it's good that your willing to pay for it, but maybe your mom isn't ready. So if I were you I would just be patient!

nygypsy1
Jan 17, 2012, 02:16 PM
For DrJ it's the top of my ear carilage.

nygypsy1
Jan 17, 2012, 04:15 PM
Tell me what you think what age is OK to get cartilage pierced.




Thanks ;)

pumpkin47
Jan 17, 2012, 05:15 PM
Hi my daughter is 13 and wants her nose pierced also . She often would get nose bleeds so I first took her to our family dr and she said it was OK next my daughter and I visited a reputable piercing place he imformed me that she had to be 16 or get a parentswritten consent while we were at the piercing parlor she saw another young lady get her nose pierced it was quite painful somy daughter wants to wait a little longer please don't pierce your nose yourself my daughters best friends pierced her nose and got infected now she has a scar on her nose she has to wear cover up daily askyour mom when she's relaked and not stressed to please make a appointment with your dr and your mom can ask the doctor questions about the piercing and exspain how to take care of it such as cleaning the piercing once daily let her know that you will take care of piercng and that you're a responsible young lady

cutiepie06
Jan 25, 2012, 10:17 AM
I don't have a say, really. I am 23, going on 24. I didn't pierce any cartilages until I was 18, which was when I was able to go without having a parent with me. I would agree with the 'body growing' part, though. Surely, your body has begun menstruating, but it is still growing. I think that's why most piercing places don't pierce people younger than 16, even with a parent's consent. As ridiculous as it sounds to not be unable to pierce your cartilage at a young age, it is also kind of a bummer, because cartilage piercings aren't bad... especially on the ear. I don't know what cartilage you're wanting to pierce.. but anyway, I would wait if I were you--even though it's a pain knowing that you have what? 4 more years until you can go with a parent. But yeah, like someone else said, actively do the things you told your mom you WILL do. Show her that you can carry responsibility. :-) Patience pays off.

XxGorexX
Feb 17, 2012, 11:21 AM
Im 12 and I got my cartlige pierced when I was it doesn't hurt at all it just feels like a pinch. My brother is 9 and he has his cartlige pierced also.

XxGorexX
Feb 17, 2012, 11:24 AM
Im 12 and I got my catlige pierced when I was 11 and my brother got his when he was 9 and it doesn't hurt it just feels like a pinch trust me

n0la
May 30, 2012, 10:04 AM
I'm 16 and I have my Cartilage on the top of my ear pierced...
(if you mean the top of your ear)
My friend pierced it 6 days ago, and my mom doesn't know about it.. it's really easy to hide... although he used a proper piercing needle and put some disinfectant on it before he even thought about doing it
Although it's sore even till this day!
I avoid sleeping on it as much as possible because it hurts still! Although it's not as bad.
I sometimes feel bad about getting it done behind my moms back, but if you want it done that bad it's your decision.. Although think about weather you can take the guilt!
It doesn't hurt to pierce and it looks really good, I don't think age matters a great deal... Just think about it a lot before you do something you might regret!

tors0316
Jul 9, 2012, 01:20 PM
Well, 12 is a little young. I'm 16 and I'm still trying to talk my mom into letting me get one. Maybe she's trying to tell you that now is not the right time. Try being patient and seeing where that takes you.

Hrilmitzh
Jul 20, 2012, 06:29 AM
I didn't get my cartilage done until I was 22 and then another one at 23(b-day present to myself :P) Waiting isn't the end of the world! I recall being around your age, maybe a year older, and confidently knowing I would have cartilage piercings, but I also knew it was a ridiculous thing to ask for at my age, patience, when you hit the 16-20 range you'll be able to get what you please mattering on where you live, its not that long of a wait, I promise!

Also, constant badgering your mum is the worst thing you can do, I agree with all the old-timers saying they'd never give in to their kid doing this. The argument of being mature enough just doesn't work at your age, I'm afraid.

cloeeee
Aug 3, 2012, 09:18 AM
You have to be at least 13 with your moms permission, so just wait

Hannah_Bear_Boo
Sep 3, 2012, 03:42 PM
Ok I'm 12 and my mom worked at Piercing Pagoda for 3 years. My mom is going to pierce my cartilage on my ear herself. My mom says that she feels a lot more comfortable that way. My mom has told me since I was 10 that I could get them both pierced when I was 12. Im almost 13 now though lol. Anyway I feel that its OK to get it pierced at 12 I don't have to pay for anything my step father is going to buy the earrings sadly I have to have real gold or my ears get infected so its going to be 40 bucks for 2 real gold earrings. But I don't have to do any responsibilities for mine. I am thinking your mother isn't letting you because she doesn't want to accept the fact that your getting older and when your more responsible for things it makes them feel old.
Hope this helps :D

Hannah_Bear_Boo
Sep 3, 2012, 03:43 PM
you have to be at least 13 with your moms permission, so just wait

No you don't have to be 13 before the age of 18 you have to have a parents consent but you can always get it before then

Hannah_Bear_Boo
Sep 3, 2012, 03:48 PM
you have to be at least 13 with your moms permission, so just wait

No you don't have to be 13 before the age of 18 you have to have a parents consent but you can always get it before then

Monkey54321
Sep 23, 2012, 11:36 PM
Hi, I just turned 13 and for my birthday I got my helix pierced (the cartilage in my upper ear). I have had no problems with it - I paid an extra $5.00 to buy an aftercare kit which I used in the morning and at night everyday for one week. I evan swam at the beach 5 days later and still no infection occurred. If you are trying to convince a parent you have to show how mature you are and how responsible you can be. To persuade my mum I made a deal with her which meant it was a win/win situation. However I had some issues with my school and from now on I have to have a clear eating in and I must wear a bandand. If I was to do it again, I probably would have waited to school holidays so that while it was in its healing period, it wasn't covered with a bandand... However I am so happy I got it done and I changed the eating three day's later - I hope this helped (;

meand you
Sep 24, 2012, 02:24 PM
Hi I'm 13 and I pierced my own ears my parents don't know about because the piercing is small

SamanthaIsMe
Sep 30, 2012, 06:31 AM
YES! I agree completely about doing your chores. I'm 12 and I'll be 13 in January and I'm about to ask my mom if I can get a helix piercing and a second lobe piercing. You should follow all of your mother's rules thoroughly and do all the extra chores. I DO agree that your body is not done growing, through it really shoudn't have ab effect on your piercing if you have it done properly. I'm sure you don't have much to prove to your mother, because I'm about as mature as a 30-year-old. Though I do not know you. Just make sure you use good manners, don't keep bugging her, do your chores, etc.. Sounds like a lot, right? Don't worry, your persistence and patience WILL pay off. Even if that means you'll have to wait a year or two. And if she makes you wait until you're 16/18. At least you'll have something to look forward to. Maybe, if she won't do it now, she'll let you get it done where it'll be ready for prom! I'm sure you'll look great! GOOD LUCK!! :D

loveat17
Oct 23, 2012, 11:43 AM
I would wait I peirced my cartlidge in my ear by myself and it got infected really bad. Juss wait your mom may not want to face that you are growing up. And do those chores to show her that if she did let you get it done then you could handle it.:)

bonzie
Nov 27, 2012, 02:19 PM
Same happened to me, I'm not even allowed my lobes pierced, but my friend pierced my cartilage for me, and I've hidden it for neerly 3 months now and it hasn't got infected, my only problem is I think mine is slightly too high, but cartilage piercings can be anywhere on the ear so that doesn't really matter, hope this helped a bit

sarah1645
Feb 21, 2013, 05:07 PM
I want mine so bad but they said the law was 13 which was not true because on this other website it says parents written consent so get your mom to write a note saying its fine which it is and then have then sign it and stuff then boom you have your cartilage pierced

keeks143
Apr 15, 2013, 11:42 AM
Mum knows best. This is coming from a 12 year old, too. I reaallllyyy wanted my 2nd lobe, my dad said yeah but my mum said no. Think about it, if your mum is concerned about the way it looks, she probably won't want you going out with it. Just wait a little and then retry. Otherwise, wait until you are older when you can do what you want.

EvanH
Jul 26, 2013, 01:13 PM
Your mom sounds strict. I'm a boy and when I was your age I had my ear, eyebrow and nipple done.

kittycatluvsowl
Oct 12, 2014, 05:20 PM
I think it all depends on how mature you are. I am on the same boat as you. I am your age and want a cartilage piercing. I think my mum might say yes because she has 3 lobe piercings in one ear and 2 in the other and quite likes piercings. But my dad is very protective and will be worried. I haven't asked yet but will point out about it will boost my confidence as I've just started secondary school and as we have to wear a school uniform we aren't expressing our personality as well as I could and this would help express my personality. Also my mum has a friend who I think pierces ears so might do it. Good luck with your parents and wish me luck with mine!