readytomakenice
Jan 14, 2012, 09:00 PM
My fiancé and I have been together for over 3 years now. We're really in love. We've been living together for the past few months. We have our differences. (He doesn't understand why it's such a big deal to put the seat down, and I don't understand the challenge of putting dirty clothes in the hamper.)
But we have done an amazing job of making it work. He's so supportive and is incredible at taking care of me. I lost my job a month ago, and until I found a new job, he just told me not to worry and looked out for me until I was back on my feet. He walked me to the door after our first date and continued to do so until we had moved in together.
We have had our rough moments and both did things that weren't the best, but we are happier than I ever thought we could be. However, while the love we have is our greatest motivation for getting married, it isn't the reason we are doing it sooner than we had planned. He wants to follow a certain career path, and there are only three schools in our state that offer his degree. He wants to move to a different town 2 hours away to do this. The only 4 year school nearby requires that you either have 48 credits (I have 22), you are 21 or older, or you are married. Otherwise, you have to live on campus.
I don't have the financial ability to pay 13,000 dollars a year, and financial aid will give me only $5,500. If we are married, then I don't have to live on campus, and with the money I have saved and the financial aid, I can afford to go and live off campus. I'm following him wherever he wants, but I don't want to give up my dreams either.
Now on to my Dad. He's been a single parent since my mom died 5 years ago. He loves all of us kids very much, but I'm the only one out of 6 to not get pregnant or get someone pregnant before the age of 18. I learned from everyone else's mistakes and made good decisions. He has really high expectations of me, and he thinks that, if I'm with this guy, then I'm going to get pregnant and throw my life away. He's afraid that I will drop out of school and throw my life away over a guy. I know that he's wrong. However, he's a dad and he's going to worry no matter what.
How do I tell him that I'm not only moving away three hours instead of 10 minutes, but I'm also getting married in less than 7 months?
But we have done an amazing job of making it work. He's so supportive and is incredible at taking care of me. I lost my job a month ago, and until I found a new job, he just told me not to worry and looked out for me until I was back on my feet. He walked me to the door after our first date and continued to do so until we had moved in together.
We have had our rough moments and both did things that weren't the best, but we are happier than I ever thought we could be. However, while the love we have is our greatest motivation for getting married, it isn't the reason we are doing it sooner than we had planned. He wants to follow a certain career path, and there are only three schools in our state that offer his degree. He wants to move to a different town 2 hours away to do this. The only 4 year school nearby requires that you either have 48 credits (I have 22), you are 21 or older, or you are married. Otherwise, you have to live on campus.
I don't have the financial ability to pay 13,000 dollars a year, and financial aid will give me only $5,500. If we are married, then I don't have to live on campus, and with the money I have saved and the financial aid, I can afford to go and live off campus. I'm following him wherever he wants, but I don't want to give up my dreams either.
Now on to my Dad. He's been a single parent since my mom died 5 years ago. He loves all of us kids very much, but I'm the only one out of 6 to not get pregnant or get someone pregnant before the age of 18. I learned from everyone else's mistakes and made good decisions. He has really high expectations of me, and he thinks that, if I'm with this guy, then I'm going to get pregnant and throw my life away. He's afraid that I will drop out of school and throw my life away over a guy. I know that he's wrong. However, he's a dad and he's going to worry no matter what.
How do I tell him that I'm not only moving away three hours instead of 10 minutes, but I'm also getting married in less than 7 months?