My boyfriend of three years decided to join the marines. Before he left he said he wanted to get married and even talked to my family about it and we started making guest lists and looked at wedding venues. A few weeks before he left for boot he said he wasn't serious about "the whole marriage thing", so I had to explain to all of the guest that there wouldn't be a wedding when they were wondering why we hadn't picked a date. While he was at boot we kept writing and in his last letter he said "we maybe able to get married" when he got back from his MOS training. I just didn't know what to think of it and am confused. I excepted that he wasn't ready before, and when he wrote this to me in a letter when I haven't seen him for months it scared me. I'm just afraid to get my hopes up. Mainly because a part of me thinks he's not serious about it, can the marines really change a person, that never wanted to get married, like that?

...can the marines really change a person, that never wanted to get married, like that?
It's anyone's guess why he changed his tune.

An anecdote: my jarhead buddy who just got back from Afghanistan (thank God), told me—and this is right after boot—he ain't getting serious with anyone until he's out of the corps. Why? Because there were so many guys in his platoon who found out that their girlfriends were cheating on them and it drove them nuts; he didn't want that happening to him.

Clearly, this may not be the case with your boyfriend, but, food for thought.

Thank you so much for your input. It's good to hear that another marine made it safely home!