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connie102
Jan 1, 2012, 09:23 PM
Ok let me start from the start. Starting talking to this guy online we were chatting for awhile. I really liked this guy, but he never gave me his last name. Somehow I found out who he was. I admit I played a little detective. I just wanted to make sure he was normal I would say. Online you never know. He was honest about everything except that he was divorced. I told him I knew who he was and after that we didn't talk anymore. I want to email him and tell I'm sorry I just wanted to know who I was talking to. I also was a little mad at him for not telling me he was divorced. Which I now understand. I sent him a ecard not sure he received it but I wanted to send him a email explaining everything. What should do I really like this guy and have a good feeling about him..

Fr_Chuck
Jan 1, 2012, 09:26 PM
I am sorry, you crossed the line, you were just at this point chatting online, he did not want his ID know ( yet anyway) he was not to the point,
There is nothing you can really do now, he will assume this would be how you always would be, your last first impression.

In chatting you were not meeting yet, just talking on line, you rushed it and I don't see anything coming from this now

fionamol
Jan 2, 2012, 12:10 AM
I also think you crossed the line. Maybe he didn't want to share his personal history because he doesn't know you or trust you yet... Divorces can be painful things.
You should have just let it progress naturally and in its own time

connie102
Jan 2, 2012, 06:11 PM
Yeah I agree but I still feel bad. I was talking to him for while though. So I guess I was losing my patience
Just wanted to try to say sorry..

fionamol
Jan 2, 2012, 08:29 PM
I think there is no harm in saying sorry. It takes a certain type of person to admit they made a mistake and I'm sure he'll appreciate the apology. And I guess you can assess the vibe you get from how he reacts to the apology

talaniman
Jan 3, 2012, 11:56 AM
I think you had a perfect right to know who you were talking on line with, but you shouldn't have told him you knew. You have sent him an Ecard, and if that gets no response, then figure he has something to hide, and let this go.

Maybe it was to soon for honest information, but don't push even harder, not even to apologize for protecting yourself. Let it go, and don't feel bad.

connie102
Jan 4, 2012, 04:17 PM
Yeah you are right I shouldn't have told him I knew. But I really would like to apologize and explain everything..

talaniman
Jan 4, 2012, 05:28 PM
Why?

connie102
Jan 4, 2012, 05:49 PM
Yeah I guess your right what's the point

No point just let it go thanks